Tuesday 29 August 2017

safety tips and advice for friendship and or dating.

1. We are not responsible for matching you with others or making plans to meet anyone, that decision and choice is between you and them, even though you can report the person to us if you don't feel the same as them and they try to force you to feel the same as they do about you.
2. It's down to both of you to know whether not you both feel the same, decide whether it's friendship or relationship.
3. If you communicate with new people one way or the other, whether it's a lot of people to make friends, even a few people to make friends, one person to make friends or even a partner, we would advise you to go with a least one person you know very well until you get to know but it doesn't always promise to be right but we are there for you. We don't want to put you in risk but we don't want to tell you what to tell what to do and not to do either.
 4. I would advise from my own experience that you ask someone if they would like you to pm them but respect their wishes if they say no, whether you like them as a friend or more.
5. Do not chase the person to go out with you if you feel more than just friendship, talk to them on pm if they are okay with you PMing them in a friendly way and to know them, don't let them know how you feel unless they should interest towards if  you find you are mistaken accept friendship from them like we said you can ask us for dating or and friendship sites off the internet if you wish.
6. Just to let you know as well if you ask us to we can't find places for you to go together even stay online but you will have face to face support if it comes to you will have to sign up to something, we are not trained to be held responsible if anything happens to your information or and money on the internet.
7. If you meet a partner on our socializing groups you're both more than welcome to stay on the groups and make friends with the members, everyone the group must respect that you are a couple.
8. By all means, however, you communicate put on pictures if you have met up with a member or members of the groups as long as they are clean and respectable.
9. Like we said, if you meet someone more than just friends we can't promise it will turn out how you hope, which means if they don't please feel free to report any negatives you may face to us and we will do what we can to sort it out for you providing you give us the person's name and proof of what he or has done.
10. Some people may think we are a bit mad but please report if you have proof of someone cheating on cause from my experience one problem can lead to another then we will be able to get he or she off the group before others face the same problem, even though we can't promise it won't happen but not on groups, we could report to Facebook but we have found they have not dealt with a lot of cases.
However' if we have removed and blocked someone in the past and members of our groups are still facing problems with that person outside the group, we will see what we can do about it. If show us proof of anything bad you have faced with a member our groups like a video or something, we won't show the proof on the group without you giving us permission like you may want the members to see the proof so hopefully, they won't face the same with that person as you have. However' we would also understand why you may not want us to show as well.
11. We also advise no matter how you feel about someone but know feelings doesn't make it easy, least from my experience anyway, first signs of abuse, cheating and etc end the relationship, we will see that person is taken from the group if you make us aware.
12. Also from my experience, not all relationships end on a bad note some end cause say for example you may see it's not going to go anywhere cause you may live too far from one another but then there are some people who don't find it affects them so you might end up been friends or back to friends on the group. That doesn't mean you should get together for that to happen, in fact, no one knows that may happen to start with.
13. Not saying, anyone, is going to pm anyone but as we have made you aware what you say to one another is not out business but feel free to report anything negative to us like bullying, abuse or and etc.
14. Just to let you know as we already said that please feel free to ask for information or websites on counseling and that if you want or and need to.
15. Just because we have given this safe guarding and that it doesn't mean we are trying to make you make friends or and date, it's here for your safety and here in case your choice to communicate with one another. Also if you just chose to talk about the group that's more than fine with us as long as you remember it's not completely private it's, all our groups are closed group meaning everyone in the group can see what you write and post but people who are not on our groups anyway can't see what you write and post.
16. Up to you but we advise don't go to their home and don't invite them to yours until you have got to know them.
17. How long it takes to get to know someone is down to you and that person between you but our advice is to give it as long as possible.
18. Long distance friendships and relationships can be tricky but we advise that stick to chat online if seeing another is hard to access.
19. Sometimes in life need to be cruel to kind but we need to think how strong and serious things are, meaning if you feel that strongly towards one another it may be necessary to take things further even if you live a long distance away from one another but in all honesty you won't really know that until you have spent a lot of time together.
20. Do not give personal details on the group such as names, address and or etc as there are risks that people you haven't asked or and you don't want them to contact may if they see your contacts on the groups. We advise even on pm that you don't give the person your contact details or meet them till if you have been PMing one another 6 to 12 months say without any dangerous problems to one another such abuse, bullying or and etc, even when you see one another for the first time to see someone you know very well goes with you for at least six to 12 times of seeing 1 another, if it lasts that long.
21. we would advise to start off with for an about 6 meeting, meet up once a month, then if it works once a week for 6 months then decide what to do from there if that works.