Every life matters

 Your not force to talk and not force to not talk either but if you do not talk the problem does not go away even though it may take time because not everyone knows how to help but cannot find the one who can. 

Give someone who needs it your full time, time, and attention. Ask open questions like how are you feeling, what is happening in your life? If they do not wish to ask if they would like to take to someone, they could know, you know, etc. 

In the past suicide was a taboo subject and we still have a lot to learn. It is not easy to know how to talk to someone struggling to a point they feel they are not copying. 

 We cannot force people to learn what they don't want to even some want to learn however even very short to someone who you may be concerned that they may be struggling one way or the other, maybe part of saving someone's life. You do not necessarily need to be a professional but show your concern and find help from those who can if the person says they feel they need it. They do need to necessarily tell you the problem unless they want to and you do not need to solve it either but help them get the help they may need if they ask for it. All the same, let them know you're here for them if they need you. 

If they do choose to open to you let them know you are listening by giving them full eye contact. 

Do not talk about yourself or anyone or thing else just focus on them and listen to what they are talking about.

Keep a record of what they are saying, for example, writing it down, if you are recording it on your phone or something for example, soon as the person has been given help, etc delete it off as that is their personal information. Do not play it to anyone to listen unless it is someone who can help professionally if you are concerned about the person's safety.

It is very understandable when you hear someone saying they feel they want to take their own life they do not want to end their own life they want to end their problem or and pain, they cannot a way of moving forward. It can be very upsetting whether you are a friend, parent,  family member, someone you work with, some you study with, etc complete stranger. neither your fault nor theirs that something going in their life is driving them to feel as they do. You are in no wrong and neither are they. Most people may not talk about what is bothering them because of people's reactions. There no wrong feeling upset for other people their life, them, and yourself but learn to understand why they feel as they do. Do not make them feel afraid to tell anyone, do not make them feel as they are doing something wrong. Talking about one's own life is neither selfish nor a crime, it is a huge concern. Most people may fear to say in case most people think they are being self etc. 

Suicidual awareness signs

 

Most people think people talk about suicide to get attention, which not true and very rarely or and very few people.

 We do not necessarily need proof to know when someone is struggling with mental health, we should be able to tell by seeing how they seem and then we need to look at it but then do not assume something is or is not wrong, which just need to learn how to look at it without making them feel uncomfortable.

This can go from someone struggling to open up to someone talking about the same situation time and time again, not being listened to, not believed, etc but then if it is said enough times, it is more than likely the truth so do not let something play on someone’s mind for years on end!

When someone is having a hard time, they feel sensitive, it is not their fault it is just how mental health can affect a person, and there certain ways of trying to support them we need to learn about. This is why it is especially important if you have concerns someone may be struggling with mental health you do not know how then it is important you find someone who does.

 However,’ You can learn to, but no one is forced to learn how to.

 Do not do anything if you do not know what you are doing this could make the person more afraid, call on someone who can.

 

To say to someone if you were going to taking own life you would not talk about, and you would have done by now makes people think about suicide, more but in a way is true but it is more so that the person wants the situation to stop, feels it won’t stop where they don’t feel strong enough to carry on even if they do pull through, mainly with ongoing or long term situations, which can feel like forever and even tiring for the person.

 Even for those people who have taken their own life without telling a soul, it was not intentional to purposely give sadness to those left behind too.

 Yes, they did know, it was going to be hard for those left behind but all the same their pain was too much to bear, and they struggled to feel they could tell anyone if they did not, even they it does not mean it made any or any little difference and that was no fault of those who were trying to help them but the pain they were going through.

 All the same, there will never be enough awareness as Mental illness is serious but management with the right empowerment, support, and understand, which is making people feel there is no need to be afraid of opening up, but this could take a long time because there was a time there was no empowering, support, or understanding

When someone says I hate this life, I do not know how long I can go on living like this, this concerning.

It is down to the person, if they tell you why or not, there may be many reasons why not afraid of your reaction if they don’t know you or don’t know you very well, they may not want to be a burden to you, they may fear you may think they are selfish, They may fear you may think they may not care about how you feel and how others they know feel are going to feel, which is not true it’s what’s driving them to feel that way is what is bothering them to point of not coping. Do not force them to talk to you but help them to find support, mainly they struggle to open to you. If they do not open up to you, please do not take it personal, they are going through a sensitive and upsetting time in their life.

 

 The purpose of this stage is to check if this is a crisis situation  (potential suicide) or a cry for help. You also need to check that you are safe, and that the client is not in a dangerous situation if so, you need to take immediate action to keep yourself and them safe.

 

Examples of crisis situation. Public crisis situations coronavirus lockdown, war, earthquake etc. personal crisis problems death, abuse, money problems, work, business and or job changes or loss, study/ exams, moving house/ housing problems, relationship, marriage, divorce break–up.

 

How these situations can affect people, examples, Anxiety, panic attacks, flashbacks depression, feeling suicidal, self-harming, stress.

 

Potential suicide is a suicidal situation where the person is driven to feel to take their own life which might be an emotional situation such as a relationship, marriage break–up, divorce, business, job change loss, death of someone they know. Whatever the problem may be, the person does not want to end their life, they want to end their problem and pain but mainly if something goes on a long time, they do not feel they are strong enough to get through whatever it may be, they are trying to get away from the situation.

It is not always the case, but the most concerning situations are when someone is going through something and does not tell anyone to a point, they take their own life. Even for those who do try to get help, life’s struggles are huge struggles to get through. Common signs of potential suicide are intending to take one’s own life driven by what is playing on one’s mind. Making plans to take one’s own life, this could be that the person putting affairs in order, trying to make a will, trying to avoid people, etc.

 

 

Monitor the client’s to whether it is in a crisis situation, potential suicide, or cry for help. Is the client in a dangerous situation and are you at risk?

What are crisis situation, potential suicide, or cry for help. Is the client in a dangerous situation

How to support a client in a crisis situation?

How to support a client who is facing potential suicide.

How to support a client in a dangerous situation, how to make sure your safe and they are.

What the situation may drive a person to a crisis situation, potential suicide, cry for help or and dangerous situation?

How to deal with their safety and yours when they face a crisis, potential suicide, cry for help or and dangerous situation? 

If you suspect someone you know is considering suicide, Mental Health First Aid teaches you to follow the AGEE action steps.

a.      Look into the risk of suicide or harm: How do we know if someone is feeling suicidal and why?

b.     Listen to the person does not judge them.

c.      Listen to what they say to if they are in a crisis, dangerous, potential suicide, cry for help etc situation.

2.     Are they thinking about suicide are they having suicidal thoughts?

3.     Are they making plans to kill themselves?

4.     Have they thought about and when they are going to do it?

5.     Do they have everything they need to go by the plan they made?

6.     Some people think that talking about suicide might cause someone to consider suicide for the first time. 

7.     This is not true, so do not be afraid of this outcome. You are most likely to make people feel less alone than driving to take their own lives.

8.     You may worry what to say to people who are facing suicidal situations, learn

9.     If they have planned and trying to go by that plan call 911 right away.

10. How you respond to other answers will depend on the issues they are facing, but always call 911 if you are unsure. It is better to be safe than someone to lose their life.

11. However, not everyone has a plan and if that is, so it does not put the person at risk. All thoughts of suicide should be taken and seriously no one lies about them to get someone’s attention.

12. We need to take notice, suicidal people are not selfish, they are not to make others feel sorry for them. Mental illness is serious, it causes people to stuffer in sients let us not let it. By learning to believe, listen, understand, support, and empower, empowering them to speak up but not focusing them, whether they do or not letting them know we are there for them if they need us but do not do what we cannot, call on those who can.