Your not force to talk and not force to not talk either but if you do not talk the problem does not go away even though it may take time because not everyone knows how to help but cannot find the one who can.
Give someone who needs it your full time, time, and attention. Ask open questions like how are you feeling, what is happening in your life? If they do not wish to ask if they would like to take to someone, they could know, you know, etc.
In the past suicide was a taboo subject and we still have a lot to learn. It is not easy to know how to talk to someone struggling to a point they feel they are not copying.
We cannot force people to learn what they don't want to even some want to learn however even very short to someone who you may be concerned that they may be struggling one way or the other, maybe part of saving someone's life. You do not necessarily need to be a professional but show your concern and find help from those who can if the person says they feel they need it. They do need to necessarily tell you the problem unless they want to and you do not need to solve it either but help them get the help they may need if they ask for it. All the same, let them know you're here for them if they need you.
If they do choose to open to you let them know you are listening by giving them full eye contact.
Do not talk about yourself or anyone or thing else just focus on them and listen to what they are talking about.
Keep a record of what they are saying, for example, writing it down, if you are recording it on your phone or something for example, soon as the person has been given help, etc delete it off as that is their personal information. Do not play it to anyone to listen unless it is someone who can help professionally if you are concerned about the person's safety.
It is very understandable when you hear someone saying they feel they want to take their own life they do not want to end their own life they want to end their problem or and pain, they cannot a way of moving forward. It can be very upsetting whether you are a friend, parent, family member, someone you work with, some you study with, etc complete stranger. neither your fault nor theirs that something going in their life is driving them to feel as they do. You are in no wrong and neither are they. Most people may not talk about what is bothering them because of people's reactions. There no wrong feeling upset for other people their life, them, and yourself but learn to understand why they feel as they do. Do not make them feel afraid to tell anyone, do not make them feel as they are doing something wrong. Talking about one's own life is neither selfish nor a crime, it is a huge concern. Most people may fear to say in case most people think they are being self etc.
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