Moving house

Moving house is the most stressful time for everyone, it's even harder if you have a disability. Due to your disability you can only do so much to help. It can make you feel useless. You feel equal to others around you. Most of us are not quick for others. With the right help you be able to feel equal and useful. Two pairs of hands or more are better than one. I only wish I can help more than I can do. On the whole once the hard work is done, it's worth it. Everything happens slowly when you move anyway, there's always some things that take forever or not at all.

Without been tied down from the big wide world there should a balance between peoples safety and rights, that is the right help. People who aren't disabled have good intentions but they understand what it's like to have a disability unless they had one. We need to raise awareness about these things otherwise people with disabilities won't find their lives are worth living. Those of you who have disabilities, are you getting right help? No one is saying family support isn't good but are they getting the right support to help them help you?

This can work one way or another, are people doing everything for you or are people giving you chances to do things by helping you? Are people rushing you? You may find some things harder than others so you may need time to do them. Perhaps you can do things that are so easy to that you can do them quicker than most non - disabled people.

Whatever help you feel you need Mencap are here to help person with disability and their helpers in some way. We are even here to help people with disabilities themselves. If you want to email me your story I'd be more than interested to hear it sarajgorman@googlemail.com or even a private message to facebook sarajgorman@gmail.com. Perhaps I can help you through Mencap, you will never know unless you ask. What I don't know I will ask Mencap, if that's what you want.

If you have a disability and you have experienced moving house or you may have helped a person or people with disabilities moving house. Please contract me on either email addresses on any subject to do with people with disabilities. Mencap are here to help people who help people with disabilities but they must understand difference between health, safety and rights to live like everyone in this big wide world. You guys as helpers need to balance the two because having a disability could have happened to you. How would you feel and what would you have done? You don't know do you?

When you are moving into your new home it be your choice to have what you want in your home how they want it. It is not always possible for people with disabilities to have their choice because that choice is very often made by the person or people who are helping them. Not everyone has the same taste as one another, this choice gets control ed by non - disabled people nine times out of ten, when it should be the choice of the person with a disability. Sometimes the helper and the person with a disability will agrees but that is not the point. The helper should not guess what what the person wants they should ask them first. The person who is looking after you, caring for you and helping you could be your Mother, Father, other family member, key work, support worker, link worker, carer or etc.

The reason why I am writing about moving house is because I have just moved myself. Lucky for me it has been worth the stress of the last few days. I think my Mother could have done with someone to help her even though we had a few members of the family to help. Society tends to think families have all the time in the world. These services don't understand that families have other lives or should we blame that on the government? A lot could be down to management, one hand does not know what the other hand is doing. People get the difference answers to one question from difference members of staff. It's either one answer of another to the rules of running a service people should use common sense.

My new flat has turned out to be very nice, mostly have cream and brown to match in my living room. The carpet is a cream with brown spots all the way through. Pictures and light fittings need to be soughed. There are not many plug sockets though, I guess it's because years ago there weren't any computers so there weren't many things to plug in.