Monday 25 May 2009

NOT ALL THE WORLD IS BLACK AND WHITE.

It is hard for people with disabilities to meet each other often to due to transport problems. I do think it's good for people with disabilities to mix with people without so they aren't too over protected by society. people with disabilities can be ignored by most people without disabilities. People tend to get the wrong end of the stick about people with disabilities they may say or do things that most non - disabled people can misunderstand because most people with disabilities may not be aware.

I think it's good that Lucy Baxter the Mother of Otto Baxter is not too over protected over him also disappointed that she is the opposite. I do think she needs to be careful. In this story I don't hear a lot or anything at all about Otto's chose of what he wants. Encouraging him to have sex with prostitutes because people with disabilities find it hard meet people to have relationships with people as it is. I don't believe his Mum should chose whether he goes with someone with or without. If two people fall in love it should not matter as long as they love one another. As for having a child, the support should be out there for him whether his partner has a disability or not. There will be times that the Mother will need a break so there should be support just for Otto at those points. Let's hope it does not happen but another possible is if Otto and a person without a disability has a child then say they slit up. Otto may need support if she sends him to count or she may be trying to claim more money off him than she should.

People with disabilities have suffered enough discrimination against our race as it without society giving us a worse name. This could cause a lot of people to cause crime toward people with disabilities. People with disabilities could find it even harder to gain friendships and relationships due to their disabilities.

However, it's all about the choice of the person a disability. Has Otto's Mother had this idea about him having sex with a prostitute without him having a chose? He could have a lot of stick off people without him understanding why. This could depend on what kind of disability he has, if does have a choice he may or may not understand what choice to make. If he doesn't understand what choice to make that's even more wrong of his Mother when she should know his needs. If he gets picked on he could be very upset and confused not been aware why he's getting picked on. If he does understand and he chooses to go along with his Mum's idea, there should be the right support out there in case people give him a hard time. Support should be offered for Otto on whatever choice he makes. It could be that his Mum could be controlling because Otto may not want to go along with her idea. He well need support if she's giving him a hard time at home.

There should be a balance of knowing the needs of people with disabilities but not holding their hands twenty - four seven.

Women with disabilities can be too over protected when it comes to sex which is understandable. It's good that there is protection out there to stop them from getting pregnant when they haven't got support but they should have support to have their rights to having equal lives to non - disabled parents. I can well understand people being over protected for the safety of the child and the parents. This all boils down to not enough funding to pay support workers to support people with disabilities to look after their children. A lot of non - disabled people don't realise what it would be like to be in the shoes of people with disabilities. If society controlled their rights they wouldn't like it either. If the right support is or would have been out there the parents of the people with disabilities would have been able to live their lives the same as parents who have adult children without disabilities knowing that their grandchild going to be looked after only with the right support.

Most people without disabilities won't go out with people with disabilities. I myself would not refuse to love a person for the reason they do or don't have a disability. If I fall in love with a person I love a person for a person. Most people I know, know I have a disability. The reason for a majority of people without disabilities not wanting relationships with people with disabilities is because they want partners who don't need support to look after their children. Most people without disabilities seem to look at people with disabilities as a lot of hard work. There seems to be a lot of guilt and shame put on people with disabilities because of their disabilities, when they didn't give themselves their disabilities. A lot of people don't understand unless it was to happen to them. I think people need educating. Not all the world is black and white at least it should not be. We are all human beings like all people most people should stop holding people's race against them.

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