No one is forced to socialize or not to socialize. How you live your life is up to you but we do look for your safety, it is up to you if you take on what we say or not, and that doesn't mean we are always right. However, there are three of us on the team with disabilities, etc who have lived our own lives in different ways. Just remember we ofter do ofter emotional support those of you who may ask for it, I am no professional but I do have a few qualifications Advocacy levels 1 and 2, mentoring level 1 and 2, mental health awareness level 1, and counseling level 1.
Just to let everyone knows this group is created these disability groups to for members to have the chance to try and make friends with other members, not with Admins. We are here to give help and support if we can. Like we say for your own safety and privacy we advise you not to write the problem you facing, on the group but let us know you are facing problems and you will like to speak to an Admin on the group. Either the admin who replies will private message you, another Admin, or me. If we don't know you we will ask you on the group if it's okay for us to private message if your answer is yes we will.
Just say what we can do may not always be helpful to you but will try.
We will take your privacy into consideration, nothing be said to anyone but we may need to speak to one another if another Admin knows more than the one that's trying to help you for example or and we have concerns for your safety for whatever reason, other than that nothing will go any further you, than the Admin whose private messaging you or and maybe our Admin team.
Other things we may look at if none of us can help are information, websites online, etc, but we can't always promise perfect help only what we are trained for.
It is also down to you to try and help yourself first by trying to contact people from places that we may give you from online, then you can private message us in a few days, a month, etc if you get no luck and we try and look again or and talk to each other and let you know we have suggested.
It will be helpful to us if you can provide proof of your problem, your safety matters so do ours.
We are not judging everyone will do this but one person I was helping was abusive he had no intentions of helping himself, giving me his phone number, trying to force me to call him, and the services I suggested him to try. I told him private message only but he wouldn't take no for answer so I blocked therefore if you behave this way or similar you will face the same as he did. Since then we think he has created two profiles to try and get back on our groups, think he's tried today and I blocked. This is why we are so tight on the rules.
Admins are here to help on the group, which is mostly safety guarding, adding new members, approval posts, possibly private messaging to support you with your problems if they choose to or and if they are trained to deal with what you are asking help for. This doesn't mean no one we will not try to help you, either Admin or I will try to help.
If your friend with any admin on this group already please respect they are here to help on the group, please take the friendship outside the group.
We cannot always be able to help you with things you ask for help for but we may be able to find information, website,s, etc online from places by you. You will just need to tell us where you are from for example London we do not need your personal details such as your home address, email address, phone number, etc.
Just to say Admins do not choose your friends.
It's down to you to try that by writing a brief message on the group about who you are where you are from, what you like doing meaning your hobbies, interests, careers, etc for example, in hopes others will reply, good luck.
Do not force others to reply as time goes on others will be in the group.
Be patient no one is online and in the groups at the same time.
Just remember only private messages and friend requests if you ask someone's permission and they say yes, don't if they say no or don't reply to you.
If you know each other already, added as a friend to one, private messaging one another already, etc you don't need to ask each other's permission but if you don't already do those things or any of these things for safety please ask one, the other, or each other first.
As I said to you how you live your lives is up to you, but we do want complaints off members complaining about members who they don't know and never spoke to contacting them without making them aware or without asking them first, which is why we make the rules we make.
such as requesting one another and us.
Advice.
Do not give people you're getting to know your contact details until you have got to know one another, which can take a long time.
If someone does give you their contact details do not pass them on to anyone else unless they say you can and even they do then only to who they say you can give them to.
Our advice is to allow someone to pass on your contact details to others unless you have known them a long time or and you can trust, but be careful they aren't passing them onto people who you don't want them to, but that is up to you.
So sorry for the harsh rules as 3 Admins have been hacked on our team in the last month and your safety matters as well as ours.
In respect of your privacy, if you let us know you're facing a problem guys, our advice does not to write the problem on the group.
Let us know the group if you're facing a problem with anything, don't say what it is until one of us private messages you. Up to you, but on the group there are others who see what you have written even though it is a private group, which means people in the group are likely to see but not people are not in the group. If the problem is within a person or people in the group, please let us know on private message and we are always grateful for proof so
we don't block and remove people from the groups who haven't done anything wrong by mistake.
Just say all if we receive private messages on the group from people we don't know etc we won't reply so please ask on the group first, an Admin like a member has a say whether they allow you or not but they will ask another admin or and myself if you are facing a problem say you are and provide proof on private message.
If you are friends, family, etc with one of us, some us or all of us, etc, social chats, etc should be out of the groups, private message elsewhere, etc as Admins are here to be on the group.
1. If you're facing a problem with anything, don't say what it is until one of us private messages you.
No one is forced to do what they don't want to do in our groups, but options are here to use for those who want to. I know as a disabled person myself making friends and being safe is not an easy one. This is why I am trying to work hard to create an option that is safe and friendly to everyone. Even now I am in my fifties I can share how hard it is for a disabled person to make friends, date, fall in love, etc. More things I have achieved in life but it has taken a lot of years out of my life to get them. It's well understandable mainly on social media with people not knowing everyone why those who don't socialize just don't and no one should make them if they don't want to or and wavy to do so. However' let's not think no one does or no one wants to try. At the same time, life is just luck, I would be lying to say there are no risks when there are. I also understand we are all different it would be a boring world if we weren't. Just because I am going to write these safety tips, advice, etc doesn't mean I expect a lot of you to socialize but this site is there for those who may.
Again sorry if this maybe sounds a bit hasty but just looking out for everyone's safety.
Just to Admins are here to work on groups, but Admins have a say just like members have a say.
Not that we are businesses we are Admins on groups but all the same business and pleaser are two different things so please respect how Admins want things. The group isn't just about friendships it is a disability, mental health, and all problems group that covers all topics positive and negative. Respect Admins as just Admins, unless either one of us, some or all are friends with you already, you know either one us, some of us or all, or and any of us, one of us all choose to be friends with you meaning more than the Admin role. Otherwise, unless any of you are friends with either some, one, or all of us already, we are just here to help in the Admin role.
Sorry, everyone's reason for these rules is that not everyone knows everyone on Facebook, it may sound as if we are being harsh but our intention is to keep us all safe as possible.
Please the rules, everyone, on the description, pinned post our website https://sararevealed.blogspot.com/2022/03/dis-ability-mental-health-support-and.html
No private messages to anyone unless you know them or if you ask their permission on this group or and you very well they won't mind you private messaging them. This means everyone on the group Admins as well as members.
One reason for this rule is safety and another is because we had a disabled group in the past, lots of members were private messaging other members unexcepted meaning many had not even spoken to one another before and we had a lot of complaints. Also, most people were been messaged by people they didn't want to be contacted by.
However, if you face a problem the group asks for an Admin, they will either private you themselves, ask another Admin, or and me.
Don't say what the problem is on the group but say you're facing one, wait until one of us private messages you.
Also if you face a problem with a person or people in the group tell us on a private message, not on the group.
Provide proof of the person, people, or problem, so we can see to do our job right and not block and remove people who haven't done wrong on the group.
Unless you know someone or and it's people know, had permission, you're added as a friend to them, you know for sure they won't mind you private messaging them if you need or want to private message someone on the group Admin member you need to ask on the group first so they are aware they have a say on the matter.
With Admins, you could be reporting a person or and problem on the group, or it could be to do with Mental health or other reasons, whichever all you need to say on the group is I am facing a problem I need to speak to an Admin.
Please provide poof a problems etc so we do our job right.
Do not put the proof on the group, wait on the private message of whoever on our team private messages you.
Whichever one of us will either private you ourselves, ask another Admin to do so, or and me to private message you.
Thank you from Sara head admin and creator.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/2812735512360982/ Dis Ability Mental Health Support And Talk Group
Tips for introducing yourself to the group. Here is an example; My name is Fred Bloggs I am from London. I like drawing and painting.
Remember there's no knowing whether you're going to communicate with someone for life or a certain amount of time.
If you face anything bad with anyone whether it's on the group or private message and it is someone in our group, write a message to the group letting us know you want one of us to private message you. Again you face that, sorry to write the first line of this paragraph in a confusing way I didn't mean to but like other reasons you may want or need to speak to an Admin. Do not say what happened and who is the problem in the group tell whichever one of us private messages you. However, if you are added as a friend to one of us, or and know us already feel free to ask for us if you know whoever this is won't mind but if you don't any of us, if you don't have permission from any of us, ask for an Admin, either whoever replies may you, they may ask another Admin or and ask me.
Please provide proof of the person and problem by copying and pasting off their private to whichever of us private messages you so we can see who is responsible and they will be blocked and removed off the group.
Then when you have shown us the proof blocked them off messager and your Facebook if you were added to them on there.
Remember private message only unless we know one another, we have each other permission contacts, etc already
Until you get to know someone.
No personal contact details mean no home addresses, no phone numbers, no email address, etc, unless one day you decide to start meeting face to face but take time to get to know one another private message before beforehand. Our Advice is if the person doesn't accept you just private messaging you block them off private message and Facebook if you are added to them, which means they are abusive and they won't take no for an Answer but feel free if you like to provide proof to us on private message if so that will be helpful so we are the awareness that this person is dangerous on the group and we need to block them off our group so they don't do the same to other people on our group.
Tips on how to get rid of someone who may be abusive.
1. Write a message on the group just asking to speak to an Admin.
2. Do not say the person and problem on the group.
3. When one of us replies, as soon as one of us private messages you, which may be the Admin, who replies to another Admin or me, copy and paste the problem on our private message.
4. Make sure the person in the wrong is on there so we know who to block off the group.
5. Soon as you have copied and pasted the proof to us, block them off your private message and Facebook if they are added to you on there.
Also, if someone on our group you don't know contacts you out of the blue, without your permission, etc feel free to report that to us. Sorry to make this hard but proof is most helpful so we can see what the problem is and who is causing it so we do not block people off the group who have not done anything wrong. I have faith that many of you won't do this but for your safety, I will say it anyway. This is a rule tip and advice do not put your own personal details on the group, which may encourage people you don't know or don't want to hear from to contact you.
Safety tips.
If someone gives you permission to private message you or and you give them permission, my advice do not to give each other your contact details for a long time, till you get to know one another, see how you get on and give it a long time to see if one doesn't block one another or one or the other, report to us the other, etc.
See how long the friendship etc is between you first meaning do not do anything to encourage them to take advantage of you for eg not giving your contact details.
Only if you are going to meet one another face to face, my advice if you do make sure you bring someone you know with you.
If they are meeting you do not invite them to your house unless someone you know is with you.
Don't go to their house unless someone you know is with you.
Make sure you are busy with plenty of people hopefully not if something happens it can be seen but make sure you can go with someone who knows you until you get to know the person.
Even if or and when you get to know someone, make sure you have contact details of people you know, then they could pick up take you home, etc if needs be.
Try to find safe places.
Don't give each other's address to start with but naturally find out where the each other are from, then maybe meet in a pub, cafe, etc.
Traveling is not easy and it costs a lot but some of us will do it some of us won't.
Always check out the distance how far you live from one another if you travel, don't go to each other's house, unless one any reason one person cannot get out, but whoever is traveling make sure you have someone with you until you get to know the person face to Facebook.
However if for any reason you can't get out to meet the person and they have to come to visit you, make sure someone you know is with you.
If you do ever if you have been wherever before we advise for safety to travel with someone you know, which take time till they can do so but wait until they can, you need to be careful meeting people you don't know face to face even if you have been communicating with them for a long time on social media.
Just to say we will look for travel information, places, etc if you ask us.
This site isn't just about safety and enjoyment but feeling someone is there if you need them as in someone to talk to and private message but remember we don't all know one another on Facebook so please write a message on our group, letting know and asking us first, Admins have to say in whether they want you to contact them or not, unless they give you or and they know you already. On the last result, I should take responsibility as I am the Creator of the group as long as there is a reason, you may be reporting a problem on the group or and a person or and it may be with you personally just with yourself, a person on the group, friends, family, etc. Like I said on the purpose and rules, I am a volunteer Befriender, achieved levels 1 and 2 in counseling, mentoring, mental health awareness, and Advocacy, which does not make me a professional but I do have some knowledge, on the purpose and rules site to this group, is a list of contact details where Mental health professional work if you need them.
Whereas I am here for a private chat on private message if you need to talk to me, please do not pm me without asking me first. let me know if you face any problems in the group or and anything else you may want to get off your chest if you want to. do not say the problem on the group, or who is responsible if anyone is. Just to say as well please let us know on the group if you want or need to speak to Admin, do not private message us randomly, unless you know one of us, of us, or all of us.
Otherwise, we will not reply to private messages unless you have asked us on the group first if you can do so first if we are not aware of it unless we know you, or and we have given you permission to do so, even or and we have added as a friend to you already, etc, which isn't only for our safety but for yours as well.
A private message is confidence what is said is private between you and Admin if an Admin pm's you but if an Admin or myself is concerned about your safety it will raise to the Admin team only, or if you what your talking about the Admin taking to you may not be trained to deal with, etc so they may get another Admin to talk to you if needs be or and look for information, online, websites, etc.
Just say you need to speak to Admin, which will be one of my Admins or me if whoever PMS if they are not trained to deal what you are talking about them, will either look online or and ask another or and me. Just say everything private between you and whoever is private messaging you but if they are not trained to deal with your situation or and they are concerned about your safety or theirs, then they will make me or and my Admins team aware.
What happens there will depend on whether it's safety or finding somewhere more trained than us etc but we will never tell others on Facebook or anywhere.
However' we may have professionals etc on our group, we may be able to private message who may be trained, etc to deal with your situation but we would never go ahead and speak to them about your situation without your permission.
Issues could be problems with people on this group you make have socialized, on other groups, on your profile, other social media or and even outside the internet, friends, family, partners, etc, deaths of people, family, money, crises for eg; Covid, the Russian, Unikane war, etc or and other emotional situations, etc.
1. If you're facing a problem with anything, don't say what it is until one of us private messages you.
2. It is up to you, but just to make you aware, in the group, there are others who see what you have written even though it is a private group, which means people in the group are likely to see but not people are not in the group.
3. If the problem is within a person or people in the group, please let us know on private message and we are always grateful for proof so
we don't block and remove people from the groups who haven't done anything wrong by mistake.
4. Just say all if we receive private messages on the group from people we don't know etc we won't reply unless you have asked us on the group first.
5. However' admins have a say just like members do, which means whoever replies either they will private messages you themselves, asks another Admin or me.
Just the same with members you don't know.
1. However, if you are wishing to try and get to know people meaning members of the group you. Feel free to write a brief introduction of yourself.
2. Everyone who joins because they want to make new friends, talk about, post their hobbies and interests, etc or both reasons.
3. Never force people to reply and admins have no control over who does and doesn't reply to you.
4. Be patent with people as people are on and offline at different times etc.
5. Feel free if you want to ask us for disability socializing, dating, etc information online websites, etc and there are also other Facebook groups as well.
With people you don't know feel free to give them permission to private message, friends request you if you like.
Do not private message or and friends request them unless you ask their permission and they say yes.
Do please ask first if you don't know them, you are added as a friend to them, you are a friend theirs, you have been private messaging each other already, etc, this means member and admin. Just remember admins are here to do admin but if you know each other etc outside the group is both your business.
If you are friends, family, etc with one of us, some of us or all of us, etc, social chats, etc should be out of the groups, private message elsewhere, etc as Admins are here to be on the In respect of your privacy, if you let us know you're facing a problem guys, our advice does not to write the problem on the group.
NO BLOCKING ADMINS OR MEMBERS
NO PRIVATE OR AND FRIEND REQUESTING UNLESS KNOW OR AND HAVE PEOPLE'S PERMISSION OR AND YOU KNOW FOR SURE WOULDN'T MIND YOU DOING SO.
The idea of the group is for members wanting to make friends with other members but we try to safety guard as not everyone knows one another on Facebook even though the idea of a friendship group is to try to get to know people but we try to safeguard and give safety advice, which is.
Feel free to write a brief message on the group about you saying who you are and where you are from for example London but do not write your address, phone, etc, no personal details, which is rules and advice.
Feel free to say what you enjoy doing for example it may be drawing and painting. We have no control over whether people reply or not but be patient as people are on and offline the group etc at different times. Never force anyone to reply, if no one does, by all means, feel free to ask us for information, websites, etc that may help to meet and get to know people if you want and also their other Facebook groups.
However' please consider some people maybe just on the group for hobbies etc, whereas others may want to just make friends and others may be on for both reasons.
Those who wish to try and make friends please feel to add a picture with a brief message about yourself if you wish.
No friend friends requests, private messages without people's permission meaning members and admins unless know them, unless you are already added as a friend to them, unless you have been private messaging you already, unless you friends already, etc. If you like feel free to say what disabilities you face etc.
As a whole Admins are here to work, if you know or and friends, added as a friend to one of us, some of us or all try to understand on the group are there to work, else what takes place out of the group.
However' feel free to report problems but let us know on the group first so we except you need our help.
Don't say the problem, person, people on the group, ask for an admin.
This could be either the admin who replied to your message on the group, another admin, or myself who could pm you.
Provide proof of the problem, people, person, etc so we are not blocking and removing people who haven't done anything wrong.
Do not put the proof on the group, put on the private message to whichever one of us private messages you.
We can not always promise if a friendship etc is going to last etc, how long, how short but we can safety guard and advice, for example, if you face problems with people or a person on our group or private message, feel free to provide the proof and report it to us, on to the private message of whichever one of us private messages you not on the group its self.
Just to say private messages won't be answered if you haven't asked us on the group first.
However' if we know you and recognized your name etc, we will either reply ourselves r report it to our team.
All are private on private message but if either we are concerned about your safety or we are not trained etc to deal with what you talking about the team may talk to each other but what you say will go no further than you and the admin you talking to or and our team. In some situations we may not need to do this, it may be in some cases just finding your websites, information, etc.
Pretty much what our other disabled group is the same rules and purpose applies.
The only difference is that this group is only a disabled friendship, hobbies, interests and other positive things group, the purpose is in the title. whereas our other disabled group has all topics onhttps://sararevealed.blogspot.com/2022/02/disability-mental-health-and-all.html
Three questions on the group now in case you want to invite people you know who may benefit from this group.
However' if they know you, know us, they are on our groups or other disabled groups they do not need to answer the questions but people who do not know anyone else on the group, people not on a disabled group our other groups, who have not been on our groups before who we don't recognize, will need to answer the questions.
Before safety reasons, it will be helpful if people do answer the questions though.
Here are questions if you need them for any reason.
Do you face disabilities, mental health, other problems if so what?
What is the reason for joining this group, making friends, chatting sharing, hobbies interests, good thins or both reasons?
Will you follow the purpose and safety rules of the group?
If you invite people to the group by the FB please find out if the people you invite will give you the answers to our questions, if not give them our group link if they wish to join to request and answer the questions themselves. find out from them first before you invite them, we do not want people complaining about being put on the group without being asked.
Make sure you only request and make others aware you may invite, do not request on more than 2 profiles.
Just to say no buying, selling, asking people for money, no advertising, spam, etc.
However, ' donations are fine to charity but do not force people to donate, leave their choice whether they donate or not.
Posting disability, mental health, and other problems events are fine but only post them say once a week, do not post them none stop say, thank you.
This is not a dating group but outside the group, we don't control that but we do safeguard. All the same, we are here for safety tips, ofter emotional support, etc for those on the group if you ask.
Those who wish to try and make friends please feel to add a picture with a brief message about yourself if you wish.
This is not a dating group but we do not control what happens outside the group, but we are here to help and safeguard if the communication is between you and someone or people in our group. All the same, we are here for safety tips, ofter emotional support, etc for those on the group if you ask.
1. If you're facing a problem with anything, don't say what it is until one of us private messages you.
2. It is up to you, but just to make you aware, in the group, there are others who see what you have written even though it is a private group, which means people in the group are likely to see but not people are not in the group.
3. If the problem is within a person or people in the group, please let us know by private message and we are always grateful for proof so
we don't block and remove people from the groups who haven't done anything wrong by mistake.
4. Just say all if we receive private messages on the group from people we don't know etc we won't reply unless you have asked us on the group first.
5. However' admins have a say just like members do, which means whoever replies either they will private messages you themselves, asks another Admin or me.
Just the same with members you don't know.
1. However, if you are wishing to try and get to know people meaning members of the group you. Feel free to write a brief introduction of yourself.
2. Everyone who joins because they want to make new friends, talk about, post their hobbies and interests, etc or both reasons.
3. Never force people to reply and admins have no control over who does and doesn't reply to you.
4. Be patent with people as people are on and offline at different times etc.
5. Feel free if you want to ask us for disability socializing, dating, etc information on online websites, etc and there are also other Facebook groups as well.
With people you don't know feel free to give them permission to private message, friends request you if you like.
Do not private message or and friends request them unless you ask their permission and they say yes.
Do please ask first if you don't know them, you are added as a friend to them, you are a friend theirs, you have been private messaging each other already, etc, this means member and admin. Just remember admins are here to do admin but if you know each other etc outside the group is both your business.
If you are friends, family, etc with one of us, some of us or all of us, etc, social chats, etc should be out of the groups, private messages elsewhere, etc as Admins are here to be on the In respect of your privacy, if you let us know you're facing a problem guys, our advice does not to write the problem on the group.
Advice tip that may help you make friends safely.
Write a very short introduction about yourself for example my name is Fred Blogs I am from London. I enjoy drawing and painting.
See you get any replies if you do that may or may not depend on who replies to you, whether you wish or not to give them your permission to a private message or and friend request you that is your choice.
Also, remember there will be others who will be joining this group and if you ask us we offer, websites, information online disability and mental health socializing, plus there other disabled, etc social groups on Facebook if you look.
Just to say if you face problems we advise for your privacy as well as safety you do not write the problem on the group but say you are facing a problem and you like an Admin to private message, which will either be the one replies, another Admin or myself.
Do not Private message any Admin until an Admin replies to you on the group, they will tell you they going to private you, try and get another Admin to or and me.
Please give us proof of the problem, person, or and people, do not put the proof on the group, put it on the private message of whichever 1 of us private messages you.
If you have faced abuse on the private message of the group or anything similar, a proof will be helpful enough to see who is causing you the problem then we will block and remove them from the group. We advise do not to block them until u have passed the proof to us, which could be on a private message, the group, or even your profile, the group then block them on a private message or and your profile if you are added to them.
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