We are all
human, there are times we run into problems feel sad, angry, stressed etc for
whatever reason and in some, some cases no reason at all.
Everything is different, it would be a boring world if we were all the same. How we may feel
may stay the same or change, which can vary from person to person. Except for anything off anybody. Some may talk, others may not but to force someone to
talk who doesn’t wish to or can’t is likely to make that person worse in their
selves, although those who can and choose to talk are like to make a start to their
problem trying to get solved or and on the possible way of trying to feel at
ease in themselves as time goes on.
Every person you
try to support is likely to be different, not necessary being down to them as a
person but maybe their mental illness, how major, mild etc it may be for
example. Some may need to be empowered/encouraged, which means not forcing
things but making the person aware of what they could or even couldn’t do if they
wish to try to help improve. This may vary where some even may find their own
ways to try and improve themselves,
which is good a good way because they will know what makes them feel comfortable
and how, while others may need some suggestion, empowerment, encouragement etc
to if they are going to go for it or not, if so when, even if not, they may or
not change their minds in the future.
In most cases,
most people who support people with mental health, and emotional problems you may
have faced the same if not similar themselves, which makes life a little easier
for you to have empathy for the person you are trying to help. Whereas for some they only do what they are trained
and qualifcated to do, which isn’t always able to support the person with
everything they need and want. For even for those who have faced mental health,
emotional problems etc themselves are not trained and qulifcated in everything
such as professional health but give the person basic support if the person has
been put on waiting lists by professionals etc. In most cases those who have
faced mental health and emotional problems help themselves by helping others
who face them, those such as myself finds it helps as much as it did, when I
was facing counselling or and emotional support myself, doing the same I would
have thought are likely to agree.
You may well be
thinking now, I thought this piece of writing was about creative therapy, which
is understandable to think that as I titled it that way, which I will get to
the point to. Sorry to go on a bit but I thought I would start talking about the
difference between those who face mental illness, emotional problems etc and professionals.
Getting to the point, those who face mental illness, emotional problems etc
will know how Anxiety, Depression and probably all mental illnesses really,
mainly depression, how really there’s only so much one can take to a point in life,
only so much one can take, which may or may not be a reason, therefore reason
only a feeling of sadness, angry without a reason or and an emotional reason.
How people do and don’t decide to go about
copying and in many cases not, or even feel like not, can vary to what the person
is facing. Is there a situation, and if so, what? How are they feeling? They could
be for example, sad, angry or and stressed. All this depends on, what, how why
etc.
Mental illness
and emotional problems, stress is a hard subject, some may not open up because
reactions of others, not wanting to tell strangers whatever it may be bothering
them etc. It is not our right to force information out but all the same even
though it’s not our right to know, for those of us in this field cannot help
but wonder and hope the person has spoken to someone they do know on whatever
may be bothering them, how they are feeling and why, if a reason. Whatever it may be and even many cases may not be, surely no one can feel negative forever
to the point something is coming to a crunch.
For example when
I had my mental breakdown in 1997, with it being over a broken down relationship,
although he was making my life very negative, despite of how I felt, yes I
admit he was making my life hell, even then I was angry, upset etc, with the
way he had treated me but, crazy as it sounds and hard for even me to believe
now my feelings have long changed to no feelings at all now and never will be to
how I was so in love with him. At the time of the break, it seems to make sense
to why people were seeing and saying to how he was with me and that he is no good for me,
but this made even me not understand to why I was still in love with him.
People understandably said move on, get on with your life, these things
happen, it made sense but to my feelings, it was said than done. The next stage was
me thinking why can’t deal with this, why do I feel this way? I am not the only one
who goes through this, why can’t move on?
This made blame
myself, feel guilty etc for feeling in love with someone who was treating me
bad, which was there for a good many years to a point, which was a wrong, bad
choice for me to take him back to find seven years later he hurt me again, then
I made I didn’t give in again, I made sure I didn’t take back again, those yet
again he begged, made he was sorry, he wouldn’t cheat again etc, at that point
I did lose trust. During those years I had loads of counselling. I walked out of his life altogether the year after his Mum died but the problem was, I was
still talking and thinking about him a lot to the point I asked my counsellor why.
She said for what you say you have gone through with him; it sounds to me as if
you have faced mental abuse.
During
in that journey of my life, even in the early stages of the breakdown, I realized
years later I was going through what I didn’t realise what I was going through.
It is strange to say, I never realized for years that I was coping but not in
ways, I wasn’t aware I was such as I was feeling and thinking suicidal a lot,
drinking too much etc, out every night of the week as time went on not talking
to anyone but watching the world go by, writing poetry about all to what I was
feeling etc, which very slowly moved me forward as much as counselling and emotional support did but what helps one person
doesn’t necessarily help another. It wasn’t an easy journey because it was a time
in my life, at the start of the day I never thought I was going to make it the
rest of the day. I accept no credit, it was nothing but to this day, I have an idea how I got through it.
