Dis Ability Mental Health Support And Talk Group

 Our Admin team

creator and head admin Sara Gorman

  Head Admin Harry Cawood

Admins

Alistair Wilkinson

Barry Matthews

Jennifer Gibert

Facebook group purpose and safety rules

Disability, mental health, all problems support, and chat group

Just to say everyone this group is created for those who face disabilities, mental health or and other problems and those who are involved in the lives of those who face disabilities, mental health, or other problems such as parents, families, carers, support workers, professionals, etc, meaning those who are trained and qulifcated in the field of disability, mental health, and other problems and those who are training and learning.

So sorry about the long-winded purpose and rules as this is an all in one disability, mental health and all problems chat, awareness support, Advocacy, even mentoring and coaching, which could all topics of life such as where it says topics on the group. We understand having too much information may be a lot for you but it's hard to be with it being all in one group, which means we don't need to have different groups on different topics like we have in the past, plus three admins have been hacked me one of them, Harry is in hospital so he may not be able to get himself sorted on Facebook till he comes home which could be a while. However' this is why we have added I'm afraid extra safety rule, which know may sound harsh sorry but hopefully keep us all safe.

As support is concerned Admins are only trained so much but pretty much what one of us knows how to do the other doesn't but if neither of us is we will try to find help for online etc. 

I am a Volunteer Befriender and I have 5 qualifications in that field Counseling level 1, Mental health awareness level 1, Mentoring level 1 and 2, and Advocacy level 1 and 2 but that does not make me a professional.

I face Autism, Dyslexia, Dyspraxia, Epilepsy Anxiety, and  Depression myself. We all know we can feel how we feel whether there is a reason or not, whether it's sad, angry, etc. Reasons could be, relationships, break-up money problems, even though Covid 19 rules have eased a lot to what they were when facing disabilities, etc, doesn't mean people feel their normal selves again.  That doesn't make me know everything but feel free to write a message on the group asking me to pm you if you, just say on the group you're facing a problem but do not say what. Just remember I am not trained and quifcated to know everything in this field but I am in most. Here are some contact details to services and people more quifcated and trained than us if you need them.

Please feel free to ask us to private message you if you want us to do so but please read our safety rules before you to keep you safe and us.

We advise you due to your privacy not to type your problem on the group just ask if an Admin can private you, which will either be the Admin who replies, another Admin, or me.

Tell whichever one of us will private messages you on Private message, this could be to do with your mental health, a problem with the group, person, or people in the group, or other issues. Also, there are contact details of disability and mental health services on our pinned post and website link.

We are here

We can all feel lowe, sad, angry, etc with or without a reason.

We understand it can be hard to talk to people you don't know so you may not want to tell us the problem but even if you tell us how you are feeling it may help us how we can we can try to help you, which is your choice either way.

What is on private message is private between you and the Admin who private messages you but if the Admin is concerned about your safety they may speak to our Admin team or it might be that the Admin who may be talking to you may not be trained to deal with what you are talking about themselves so they may speak to an Admin who may know. Just to say if needs be we can look online for websites, information, etc if needs be.

including contact details of services, charities, etc who are more trained than we such as counseling, etc on our group description on the right-hand side.

Mind Infoline is open 9am to 6pm, Monday to Friday. We're closed outside of those hours. But there are people you can talk to any time: call Samaritans on 116 123 (UK-wide)

http://www.stophateuk.org/ 0800 138 1625

WWW.crimestoppers-uk.org 0800 555 111

Learning Disability Hate Crime Stop Crime Helpline 0800 802 1155

http://www.mind.org.uk/ 0300 123 3393 email info@mind.org.uk

Samaritans WWW.sameritans.org 08457 90 90 90

Elder Abuse WWW. ageuk.org.uk 0808 808 81141

Victim Support WWW,victimsupport.org.uk 08045 3030 900

NHS medical help non-emergency 111 WWW.nhs. the UK

NSPCC Helpline WWW.nspcc.org.uk 0808 800 5000

Citizens Advice 0844 111 444 from landline 0300 330 06550 from mobile and WWW.adviceguide.org.uk

Community legal advice 0845 345 4345 WWW.justice.org.uk

Emergency 999

https://www.nidirect.gov.uk/articles/mental-health-services

http://inspiritedminds.org.uk/

https://www.nidirect.gov.uk/articles/mental-health-emergency-if-youre-crisis-or-despair

https://www.facebook.com/groups/AnxietyandDepressionThebigtalk/

https://www.rethink.org/diagnosis-treatment/treatment-and-support/crisis-teams

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Remember as the title says this is Disability support and talk group so feel free to talk about different issues in the lives of facing disabilities and mental health positives or and negatives of life.

Also, this group is for people who face disabilities, mental health, and or other problems and those who are in their lives who support, teach them one way or the other, which could mean at home, school, college, health, and all issues, which could mean parents, family, carers, support workers, social workers, teachers, tutors, health professionals, careers more and all, whether those involved in these people's lives are trained, qulifcated, learning or and training yourself. Feel free to chat on the group with those who may be facing if not the same but similar to you, whether you face disabilities, mental health or and other problems or if you are helping people or a person who faces them in whatever issue, some issues or and all of life.

Topics On This Group.

1. Health – Anything to do with the health of disabilities, Mental health, and other problems, Covid 19, etc.

2. Accessibility and disabled in all places - such as housing, disabled aids, accessible information, easy read, disabled access, disabled parking, wheelchairs getting around on transport, etc,

3. Home support – help with cooking, shopping, housework, etc.

3. Careers – Education and Employment for People with disabilities, Mental health or and other problem,s.

4. Talent – Hobbies, interests, arts, crafts and etc which can either be in the home, socially, or in a career.

5. Social issues – Friendship, dating, going places, counseling, emotional support and etc.

6. Public Advocacy – Empowering and supporting people with disabilities and health problems to speak for their rights. For eg; (Person Centred Planning.)

7. Private Advocacy is mostly legal and illegal Advocacy such as hate crime, discriminating, benefit cuts, fit for work, not fit for work and etc.

8. (‘ Learning Disability and Mental Health Awareness’) - people with disabilities and health problems training and educating those people without disabilities and health problems who are interested in working in the field of learning disability and health problems.

9..All and more. Information about this group, on our website links next to this information, sorry there's a lot as this is an all in one disability, mental health all problems group.

In respect of your privacy, if you let us know you're facing a problem guys, our advice does not to write the problem on the group.

Let us know the group if you're facing a problem with anything, don't say what it is until one of us private messages you. Up to you, but on the group there are others who see what you have written even though it is a private group, which means people in the group are likely to see but not people are not in the group. If the problem is within a person or people in the group, please let us know on private message and we are always grateful for proof so

we don't block and remove people from the groups who haven't done anything wrong by mistake.

Please respect one another meaning everyone in the group, members, and Admins.

Be nice

Be kind

No Hacking

No Porn

No abuse

No bullying

No Hate crime

No judgment

No discrimination

No Sigma

No rowing

No nastiness at all

Make sure you don't request on any more than 2 profiles, whether it's one profile or 2 make sure you have a picture of you in the place where the profile picture is so it's seen when you post etc.

 

NO PRIVATE OR AND FRIEND REQUESTING UNLESS KNOW OR AND HAVE PEOPLE'S PERMISSION OR AND YOU KNOW FOR SURE WOULDN'T MIND YOU DOING SO.

ANYONE ON THE GROUP WHO YOU DON'T KNOW AND WHO THEY DON'T KNOW WITHOUT ASKING THEM ON THE GROUP FIRST. WHATEVER THE REASON YOU NEED OR NEED TO CONTACT THEM, PLEASE MAKE YOU THEY ARE AWARE AND ACCEPT THEIR ANSWER THEY NO, NEVER ASK WHY, IF THEY CHOICE TO TELL YOU WHY THAT'S THEIR CHOICE, SAME FOR IF THEY DON'T

IF IT IS A PROBLEM WITH THE GROUP OR AND A PERSON, LET US KNOW YOU'RE FACING A PROBLEM, LET US KNOW ON THE GROUP BUT DON'T SAY WHO AND WHAT ON THE GROUP, WHICHEVER ADMIN RESPONSES ASK THEM IF YOU CAN THEM IF NO ASK THEM TO ASK AN ADMIN OR CAN OR MYSELF. PLEASE PROVIDE PROOF OF THE PROBLEMS SO WE DON'T BY MISTAKE BLOCK ETC SOMEONE WHO HASN'T DONE ANYTHING WRONG. DO NOT PUT THE PROOF ON THE GROUP HAVE THE PROOF READY FOR WHICHEVER ONE OF US PMS YOU.

WE UNDERSTAND THOSE IN THIS GROUP WILL JOIN FOR IF NOT THE SAME BUT DIFFERENT REASONS.

MAKING FRIENDS AND SOCIALLY ETC IS ALLOWED BUT IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE, YOU STILL BE ACCEPTED TO THE GROUP EVEN IF YOU DON'T WANT TO SOCIALIZE WITH PEOPLE. FOR THOSE WHO MAY DO YOU WILL BE PLEASE TO KNOW WE SAFETY RULES AROUND THAT.

IF TRYING TO COMMUNICATE PLEASE DO NOT FRIEND REQUEST AND PM RANDOMLY.

DO WRITE A SHORT MESSAGE ON THE GROUP AND IF ANYONE OR AND ANSWERS, ADMINS CAN'T AND FORCE OTHERS TO TALK, REPLY ETC IF THEY DON'T, PLEASE ACCEPT PEOPLE'S.

NO PERSONAL CONTACT DETAILS ON THE GROUP FOR EG, NO EMAIL ADDRESS, PASSWORD, NO HOME ADDRESS ETC ON THE GROUP.

JUST WRITE A SIMPLE MESSAGE, PERSONAL FOR EG; MY NAME IS FRED FLOGS I COME FROM LONDON, I LOVE DOING DRAWING AND PAINTING. LIKE I SAID DO NOT FORCE PEOPLE TO COMMUNICATE WITH YOU IF THEY DON'T. THERE ARE OTHER DISABLED GROUPS BUT ALSO FEEL FREE TO ASK US FOR SOCIAL WEBSITES ETC IF YOU WISH. WE UNDERSTAND THAT MANY ARE LIKELY TO BE WAVY OF DATING ETC BUT AGAIN THE SAME SAFETY RULES ARE AROUND THAT TOO.

HOWEVER' COMMUNICATE IF YOU DO, WE DO NOT INTERFERE WITH THAT BUT WE ARE HERE FOR YOU ON THE SAFETY SIDE. IF YOU DON'T WANT TO COMMUNICATE WITH PEOPLE THAT'S FINE.

WHEN COMES TO SOCIALIZING, MAKING FRIENDS, DATING ETC ALTHOUGH WE UNDERSTAND A LOT OF THE MIGHT OF THAT WE DON'T ALLOW DATING AS SUCH BUT DO BELIEVE PEOPLE HAVE THE RIGHT TO COMMUNICATE HOW THEY WANT AS LONG THEY ARE NOT FORCING OTHERS TO DO WHAT THEY DO DON'T WANT TO.

IN FACT, NO DATING IS ALLOWED IN THE GROUP, HOW YOU COMMUNICATE ON PRIVATE MESSAGE IS BETWEEN YOU AND THE OTHER PERSON, WE DON'T BELIEVE IN TELLING YOU HOW TO COMMUNICATE WITH OTHERS BUT WE CAN GIVE TIPS AND ADVICE SUCH AS DON'T GIVE OUT YOUR CONTACT DETAILS UNTIL YOU GET TO KNOW YOU, DON'T MEET WITH SOMEONE UNTIL YOU HAVE GOT TO KNOW THEM. HOWEVER, IT IS FINE TO TELL PEOPLE IN THE GROUP IF YOU BECOME MORE THAN FRIENDS WITH SOMEONE IN THE GROUP THAT CHOICE IS UP TO YOU TWO BUT KEEP YOUR PRIVATE LIFE PRIVATE. HOWEVER AS I SAID WE ARE HERE FOR TIPS AND ADVICE SO IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO PRIVATE AN ADMIN ASK ON THE GROUP, DON'T SAY ON THE GROUP WHAT IS ABOUT IF ONE ADMIN WON'T PRIVATE MESSAGE YOU THEY WILL ASK ANOTHER AND MYSELF. ALSO, IF YOU DO FACE ANY PROBLEMS WITH SOMEONE ON PRIVATE MESSAGE, ON THE GROUP AND YOU CAN PROVIDE PROOF OF THE MESSAGE AND THE PERSON. ONCE YOU HAVE PROVIDED THE PROOF, BLOCK THE PERSON ON YOUR PRIVATE AND PROVIDE IT ON THE GROUP AND WE WILL BLOCK AND REMOVE THAT PERSON FROM THE GROUP.

I DO AND IF SOMEONE IS OKAY FOR YOU TO CONTACT THEM, WE CAN NOT PROMISE HOW LONG OR SHORT A FRIENDSHIP OR HOW YOU WILL LAST THAT'S BETWEEN YOU AND THEM BUT WE WILL TAKE RESPONSIBILITY IF YOU SHOW ANY PROOF OF ANY PROBLEMS WITH ANYONE, THEY WILL BE BLOCKED AND REMOVED WHETHER PROBLEM IS ON THE GROUP, PROFILE, OR AND PRIVATE MESSAGE.

JUST REMEMBER ALSO THAT WE ALLOW PEOPLE WHO SUPPORT PEOPLE WITH DISABILITIES, MENTAL HEALTH OR AND OTHER PROBLEMS SUCH AS FAMILY, PARENTS, SUPPORT WORKERS, CARERS PROFESSIONAL ETC AS WELL PEOPLE WHO FACE DISABILITIES, MENTAL HEALTH OR AND OTHER PROBLEMS, FINDING OUT ON THE GROUP WHO PEOPLE IS IMPORTANT IF YOU TRY TO COMMUNICATE. DIFFERENCE PEOPLE ARE ON THE GROUP DIFFERENT REASONS, WHICH YOU MAY COMMUNICATE WITH SOMEONE WHO A PROFESSIONAL FOR ADVICE MAY ABOUT YOUR HEALTH, JOB ETC BUT ASK THEM ON IF YOU CAN CONTACT THEM ON T FIRST DON'T JUST CONTACT THEM WITH KNOWING, MAINLY IF YOU HAVE NOT CONTACTED THEM BEFORE, MEAN NO RAMDON PMS AND FRIENDS REQUEST UNLESS THEY SAY YOU CAN.

We have done so yet but we will be writing the three questions the group for everyone's safety you will need to answer three questions because on this new Facebook page it doesn't show clearly whether or not, someone is safe to join the group meaning your safety and everyone on the group.

If you don't answer or not all you won't be accepted on the group. The three questions will be like this or in so many words.

1. Do you have disabilities, mental health problems, mental illness, or other problems, what disabilities, mental health problems, illnesses, or problems do you have?

2. Are you involved in the lives of people with disabilities, mental health problems, mental illness, or other problems behave of anyone any age? For eg; you could be a parent, family, carer, support worker, professional, etc.

3. Will you follow the purpose and safety rules of the group?

However, if you have been on our groups before and we recognize your profile it's very likely we will accept without you answering the questions for example such situations as now 3 admins have been hacked, myself one of them, Because I don't how to delete my hacked profile sadly is still around and I have been having close done groups I created from that profile and create new groups to replace them. One of my group was even hacked with me, which is why sorry to say our rules will need to be a little stricter than they were. Even more so if you have not been one of our members before please answer the three questions.

Sorry if this sounds confusing but I have been running FB groups since 2010, I have had a lot of remembers, group and naturally there is too much to remember but in some cases, it may take a bit of time for us to decide to add you or not, give us a day or two to decide because it may have been a number of years since you on our group, therefore we do we may accept to give you a chance.

Hower' understand that not everyone can have their hacked profile blocked removed etc and understand if some of you being hacked may not come back to us. but if you do either on another profile but if your hacked profile is still around. Please message on the group to let everyone know and warn them not to reply, respond, etc to anything that comes from there.

Also' in any case please do not request on our groups on more than 2 profiles otherwise it could get confusing.

Before asking an Admin's permission to private message, please remember you are not allowed to contact them any other way without their permission or unless you know one another.

We are here to help the best way can but everyone's safety

is important and everyone has a say in this group, whether or not they want others in the group to contact them or not.

Does everyone understand, sorry this sounds harsh just looking out for everyone's safety?

I know one of you is asking for help but before we do, we want to make sure you understand these rules because just lately 3 Admins have been hacked myself included.

Just to say all we are here to help but I know this is a mind field, everyone but not everyone knows everyone on the FB, which is why we put these rules in place.

Remember everyone has a say in the group, everyone's thoughts, and feelings matter Admins as well as members.

When wanting help please do not write the problem on the group let us know you're facing a problem, ask for an Admin, if the admin who replies doesn't wish to contact you, they will ask another Admin or me.

When if or when we contact you it will be a private message only do not contact us any other way unless we say you can or and we know one another.

Hi, all sorry about since we set we gone about rules a lot as I three Admin have hacked lately plus I blocked someone who was being abusive towards me, which I am afraid we are tightening up on the rules sorry about that.

This group is not judgemental and neither are we but not everyone knows one another on Facebook, which is why we make the rule if do not contact someone we don't know without the person's permission.

Your safety matters yes, so does my Admins' safety and they do have a say whether they private message you or not, if not is my responsibility as a creator to tell to help, will do our best we are not trained, etc at everything but we will work our hardest to find where could be able to help you.

If an Admin does a private message please be grateful for that because you don't know us and we don't know you.

Do not ask us to contact you in any other way but if we they ofter that is our choice and we will respect your choice as well whether you say yes or no.

No abuse, porn, blocking, hacking, etc

If we are not happy with the way you behave we will block you off the group and private message like I did to this guy today.

Sorry to go about the rules but I care about keeping everyone safe, not buying, selling, or asking anyone for money, putting charities on the group is fine to try and raise money but should be people's choice whether they want to get involved or not. Never force someone to raise money for charity.

Just say all if we receive private messages on the group from people we don't know etc we won't reply so please ask on the group first, an Admin like a member has a say whether they allow you or not but they will ask another admin or and myself if you are facing a problem say you are and provide proof on private message.

If you are friends, family, etc with one of us, some us or all of us, etc, social chats, etc should be out of the groups, private message elsewhere, etc as Admins are here to be on the group

Back to poetry

 Water and wine.

Here I am drinking water and wine, everything is fine.

What I write either does or doesn't rhyme.

My mind is blank thinking about what to write most of the time.

No poems, no verses just words and lines.

Just trying to be one's self I have not let alone you cannot read my mind. 

I don't need to write a story, novel, or play just words, that come from the mind, which are not.

What are we thinking and why unknown to me as well as you.

Therefore I write one line at a time, even though it's rubbish coming out of my mind.

I may have always been out of my mind and still am.

Nothing to miss when I have gone. 

Nothing to lose nothing to gain.

It's okay it's just a load of rubbish of words coming out of my brain but none at all.

I am just no one and nothing to miss when I have gone.

I'm no one special I have no talent at all.

I have no thoughts at all but then I do, I just struggle to express those thoughts in the way others understand.

Writing words are just my way of managing myself, disability, my mental illness, problems, my life meaning the good things as well as the bad, happy, and the sad. 

There is nothing to miss I'm just human like you but if I'm known I wish to be known while I'm here not when I am gone. 

  Do not remember me when I have gone because no clocks can be turned to remember me while I am here. 

Whether the weather.

It is the start of 2022, New York started wet, damp pouring with heavy rain on the windowpane.

The lake was slightly overflowing as the deers were eating wet grass on the meadow hill. 

Suddenly the fog and mist appeared with no sign of a lake to be seen only an icing ring. 

Winter greyness appeared with the winter trees and grass everywhere.

Since then the snow has been on and off since Christmas eve. 

           

We must remember.

As sad as wars are we must remeber those who risked their lives for us, even if we never have will know them, we wouldn't have been here if it had'nt have been for them.

No matter when or what war etc, whether we knew them or not their lives were as important as ours, this could familes from today to those generations apart etc or and even friends etc.

The Civil war was 300 odd years ago, 1733 was the run up to the Civil war.

Sanvannah has a histroy of slaves, trees, fields, farms etc just like other parts of American such as North and Sourth Carolinia. 

The solar system

Not sure whether or not anyone has wrote poems about the solar system but what I write is not poems but words, snetcences, lines etc.

Earth is Mother of the world planet earth, we walk the walk of places, people,  animals, rivers, sea, lakes, different weathers and more.

The planet is a milky way of stars, mercury, mars, venus, earth, jupiter, saturn, uranus, nepture, pluto, the moon, the sun and maybe more, which all planets of the solar system, this our planet earth.

The good and bad of getting old.

The truth is that we are neither young or old, we are just human.

It's just that there comes a time we change and voices go more so over our head than they used whether we are happy with what's going on around us or not.

We are too tired to row with others as much as we used, if we feel emotional we don't show it to others as much as we used to.

We more so keep our thoughts to ourselves, which have learn from experinces, we have at last learned words can get us into trouble so therefore it is mostly better to handle life with thoughts although there are times we do need to speak up.

We are there but then we are not, we mostly don't always hear you, most things are better off not said. 

By all means speak yoourselves whether we answer or not, we may not be there but if you so wish talk away, it is best to get things off your chest.

Do not cry because we are not there or and if we are not there, we have diserppeared into thin air but then we are there just that there are most times you see things different to us.

Get use to it, we won't be here forever, make the most of us, neither will you.

You may not see it now but you will be saying the same if not simlair to others around you one day.

Your time will come one day your time, you don't know when neither does anyone else know but it will.

When you find yourself talking like this you know your getting old but it is not all bad in everything, no one knows everything that is impossible but you find your learning more and more, also thinking wiser and less seem to start bothering as they may do now.  

The main bad things are the aches and pains etc. 

I'm still not quite there but near enough, to have written this poem I have only found myself thinking about and seen members of my family to know what to except.

Born to be young. 

Getting old is hard to accept because when we are born we are born to be young.

Really in some ways life can be unfair, to carry on live to when your life should end, you face getting old, unwell, depending on others etc despite health fitness etc today comepare to  how things used to be , but if dieing young you leave others in disbear there is no winning.

Where there is a postive?

For most of us many positives take so long to come if not at all.

Take love for example most of us go through madness I did anyway of falling in love with those who didn't and don't love because if you face simliar or same as me, we were foolish to realize in our time that whoever didn't love us, even though they said they did, they were lieing to us, we just took our time to work that out.

In time most of us come across who that does truely love us in the way we love them and then grow old with them, one goes before or and after the other and even together, we can only hope we go together but that doesn't work out for everyone. The hardest is living without the other when you love them so much.  

I fell down but I got back up again.

I thought you hurt but it was just a long nightmare I had for many years.

In my mind today sorry to say you are not real I never knew you, you were only in my head.

My goodness at the time I thought I lost everything when I lost you, I loved the ground you walked on  at the time and I must have been so out of my mind, you abuseived my mind or should I say I thought you did.

As negative it most was, do not take this the wrong way, I don't want to be your lover and I don't want to be your friend no way how you hurt me or should I say I thought you did.

Of course notthing changes how I feel now.

I spend years going along with your feelings what wanted whether I liked it or not, all the same you knew I wasn't happy with the way you treated me but you didn't care.

All is not all negative out of this, at one time I would have said the positive thing were the happy times we have had but even that is blank and out my mind, who would have thought because like a fool back then my world was round you.

Despite that and it doesn't make me want you back in my life again so don't you dare think that it does but there is one favor you have done me out of this without realising it is what I went through with you created my talent for poetry but I don't waste every time I write a poem writing about now like I use to. 

I thought I couldn't live without you but I was so wrong, how you hurt me at the time foolish caused me to have a number of suisidal attemps, now I look at my life thinking what the hell was all this about?

I never thought I had the strenght to carry on now long gone I have realised I was stronger than I thought I was. 

You chewed me up, spat me out.

I fell down but I got back up again.

How I got through I don't know but I need no credit whatsoever, my stenght is my poetry.

I must have been so out of my mind to put up with your twisted mind all these years, you loved me then you didn't but you never did, you lied. 

The sooner I stopped feeling in love with you, which was not sooner enough you decided you still loved me.

The first time because I still loved you like a fool I took you back then seven years later you hurt me again, then the second time I stopped feeling in love with you then I was done without there was no going back and that is my word forever. As old as we are getting I am not living with your silly games again and again. I love again but he is not you, he and it never ever will be. 

I am still here, you haven't killed me with you mental pain, you thought you had.

Whether you have changed or not there's no going back.  

They say hate is a stonger word and in a lot of cases it is but sorry for what you put me through I find it so hard to even for you friend, if only I hadn't have loved you much when I was very young.

Love is so blind at the start you don't know at the time but that does not put me off loving again just not with you or others before you. 

what do you except?

Not whether or not I feel sorry or empathy for in a strange way.

Sorry but I have no idea how someone can go from feeling in love with someone then not in a matter of a short time, then keep having a change of feelings.

Maybe this is something you cannot help or is this purpose?

I don't know but all the time this is why I wanted out of your life in the end.

Not sure whether I was right or wrong not being your friends anyone but sorry I sure cannot be your lover anymore because you never sure you wanted to be mine. 

Whether you can help this or not you cannot someone to waiting around and go around your feelings, feel the same way as you each time you change etc.

Maybe you are living with same problem you were living with when I knew you but whether that is so or not I am not leaving the life I have now for you or anyone, besides you cared when you left me for someone else when we were young so why should care now and why should I? 

It doesn't and never did do me any good because you never knew what you wanted and I wouldn't be surprised if you still don't know what you want in life.

I will be honest to say it must be a sad state of afair to be you and I'm so glad to be out your life as I have been for the last ten years and I knew since 1994. 

Burnnight.

What am I doing in Amercian on Burnsnight?

Even though I am an English girl not a Scot girl, I love poetry.

Robbie Burn is one the greatest poets of all.

I only tried haggie once in my life but no chance tonight as I am in Amercian. 

All the same I write poetry, the sun is shiring and the snow is still on the ground.

I will be travellling back to the UK tomorrow and landing Friday morning.

When I started writing poetry as a young lass in my late twenties, Robbie Burns inspired me with his words laddie and lassie. 

Anixety and words.

Too easy to see the world as all black and white when it's not all dull.

Too easy for crisises to bring life to a stand still, feeling alone when we are not.

The future seems far away or not at all, too easy to wonder why we are here, thinking there is no reason when reason there is, the puzzle is just the not knowing the answer to life on this world.

Too easy to think we will face the world alone when it's not so but some how we do, we think we are not strong to take anymore but somehow we do despite of crisises we may face.

Young poet I were even though I wasn't they were just words I wrote and what inspired me first most was young what was in his time, John Keats I thank you so much for getting me out of a hard time even though you didn't help me in person but you help me to create my own work poetry and words, even though we are so many generations apart.

If only it was possible to help you in person but pen, paper and typing is the only way to be.

No one should judge you for what you went through losing Fanny the love of your life to another man thinking that you ended your life because of that, you didn't end your own life, you were unwell. 

It is too easy to think you ended your career as a doctor to your career as a poet because of Fanny, surely that wasn't necessary the case. 

Although, when losing happiness it is hard to see your happiness in the future, when we don't know what is to be, how long or short happiness will come back to us most likely in a different way.

The feelings of others matter too, life is not what we want to end although we may think so but it is our pain we want to end but it is not always necessary we will feel that way, we shouldn't judge what we don't know.  

  

 

Short Introduction to the American Civil war.

 American Civil war was more of a local war between themselves and other states due to slavery and how the economy was at the time. This started in 1861 and lasted till 1865. I am learning about it myself which is why I am giving a short introduction and adding a website at the end, which will know more than me.

 The reason for choosing this is topic is because during my time this time round in America I had spent a bit of time in South Carolina, which is pretty much places as there where the Civil was. Other places are such as North Carolina, Mississippi, Florida, Alabama, Georgia, Louisiana, Texas, savannah, and many more.

  This war affected many things such as farms, canals, roads, steamboats, railroads, banking, insurance; newspapers, books, magazines, and more, which had been happening from 1815 to 1861, I say the effect the economy, which I may be wrong to say but more like trying to improve the economy as unpleasant as wars are. 

There it is not an easy or nice one to explain as many lives were injured or lost like they are in all wars.  There again I admit what do I know and I won't be just adding a link to this site I will be reading it as well? Where I need to find out if it did do more good from harm or the other way round in the end. You most likely know more than I do.https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/American_Civil_War

Sadly the Civil war was the worst bloody war for the Americans apart from world war 1, 2, and mand more. There was more than 920'000 death, which completely distorted those left behind. https://www.history.com/topics/american-civil-war https://www.americanwars.org/ Abraham Lincoln was president of the United States at the time of the Civil war. The loss of lives etc wasn't nice but the civil war did end slavery when the war was over, I think it did, and says on www.amercianwars.org/ 

More about planets

 Since I started this website in 2007 it's not necessarily all about just or and all about what you can learn from me but also what I can learn from you. Even though it's mostly about disabilities, mental health, etc how the awareness can benefit those who face similar or and the same as me and those who support, care for them, etc apart from other topics too, which plants again what is what this post is going to be about. 

You may wonder why I have decided to write about planets at the moment. To be honest no reason at really and I am not excepting to achieve anything or any little out of it really. To be honest when I was traveling to South Carolina around about a week ago I was watching Space 1999 on my iPad, which used to be on the telly when I was a small child in the 1970s, I never really understood the program back then and I am just learning to how which I guess made me decide to want to research on the internet about different planets. Good or and the bad thing really due to my disabilities etc I am well behind as far that's concerned where most young children I learning about the planets on the earth I struggled to do so at that and are a bit clearer to me at the age of 52 than when I say 8 or however old I was when I should have learned time but then should there be any shame on time we learn anything? This I think is a hard one to answer. Anyway, right or wrongly I thought I would share the topic with you. 

Only that I have been aware pretty much the Covid crisis started I have written a lot about mental illness, which with facing it myself has always been concern how others to me cope and the fact of Covid for nearly two years in March has likely to have increased mental illness even more so, anyway more on planets because I have nowhere near covered everything. 

Venus. the hottest and 2nd planet on the solar system. The temperature of the venus planet is 880 F 471 C. Considering Mercury is a cold planet it is not the coldest planet Neptune is the coldest planet. Venus's atmosphere is very thick with carbon dioxide gas and the atmosphere traps heat. It feels like the furnace is on the surface. 

Venus is the Roman goddess of love. Aphrodite for the Geeks, it's not an inviting place.  Venus is responsible for active volcanoes, hot toxic, earthquakes, etc. 

We shouldn't be surprised that venus is the hottest planet, which is 9 C times stronger it is on earth.  It would seem like  900m 300Ft underwater. 96 percent of cordon dioxide, which is a never-ending water cycle of heat 1000 F day and night.https://www.space.com/16080-solar-system-planets.html#section-venus-earth-s-twin-in-the-solar-system

 I won't say a lot about Jupiter and Saturn other than a website for those of you who may be interested and a bit information reason for this is that Jupiter and Saturn are rather similar according to what I read in a lot of ways. https://www.thegreatcoursesdaily.com/saturn-and-jupiter-similarities-and-differences-of-two-giants/

Jupiter is the 5th planet in the solar system and Saturn is the 6th. Let's focus on Jupiter first. It has 778 million 5.2 AU thereabouts from the sun. 317 more so than earth and 2.5  larger than the other planets.

It is a gas giant with hydrogen, helium, and other gases. It has a very intense atmosphere in the solar system. 

It is possible that it is no more different either to Uranus when it comes to the wind speeds, it can reach about 100 m/s and possibly more. It is 142. 984km 88.846m thereabouts.

It takes roughly a year for Jupiter to equivalent 12 years earth, which only lasts 9 -8 hours.  Temperatures are about 148 degrees celsius. It has 79 moons and more waiting to be confirmed. It is second to Saturn when comes to satellites. 

Saturn. is the 6th planet on the solar system, which is another gas giant. 1.4 billion km / 886 million mi about 9.5 all way from the sun. It has 7 rings on it. 

82 king of moons confirms satellites. The atmosphere is made up of hydrogen, helium, and other gases.

120.500 km  74.900 mi thereabouts. It equivalent is to 30 years of earth roughy. Researchers say Saturn is a recognizable planet in the solar system it lasts about 10.7 hours. 

Rough temperatures are 178 degrees celsius. It is most likely the most known planet on the solar system.  

Just to say I won't be closing this subject but I will be going on to something else on this blog then coming back to when I have no idea myself but before I do I just want to write about the basics of the last two planets and maybe add some websites on here etc just in case anyone is interested. To be honest I am learning myself and sharing what I am finding out on here. 

Neptune is a very dark and cold planet, it is an ice and thin gas giant, that causes very strong winds. It is the 8th planet in the solar system. Neptune is responsible for jet streams and winds 1'500 miles per hour. it is far from the sun and further from pluto. The internal heat is weak meaning there is no heat or very little heat on Neptune. 

Uranus is another planet not close to the sun orbits where the sun is on its side with its axis, it spins near the stars. It is the 7th planet in the solar system. Neptune and Uranus are ice giants. This is because they are very big planets made up of hydrogen, and helium gas.  It has only been in the last few decades astronomers have called it the ice giant because the atmosphere is a mantle layer. Uranus is the Grandfather of Zeus, the greatest of all gods. The planet was first discovered by William Herschell in 1781. abyss.uoregon.edu/~js/ast121/lectures/lec20.html

Our planet

Many of us may or may not know already so sorry if I am telling you something already know. However, this study has been properly been going on centuries but like a lot of things, things change, get taken out, added on, etc where they get updated, etc. In today's world, we have had the internet for the last say twenty odd years and so many sites tell us different but maybe because of updates and takes time to update everything. 

I only say sorry and take a guess on what I am putting this study I cannot promise for all to be correct hopefully most are to what I research. Over the years it started off to be eight to nine planets and now to a few sites I have researched roughly 12 planets now. 

The planet and sun are made up of Mercury, Mars, Neptune, Uranus, Saturn, Jupiter, venus, earth,  the moon and pluto. The gallery is the solar system with the stars that connect to the earth and it's the solar system milky way around the sun. In the gallery is gravity star formation gas of clouds with the milky way.  https://www.bighistoryproject.com/chapters/2#intro

Mercury.

Mercury is near the sun but it is not a high temperate. It is the second planet on the solar system and the smallest planet on earth it is also very simliar if not the same as or and to earth.  

One site on the internet had said that they think we are likely to think that Mercury is the hottest plant because it is near the sun, which for many of us maybe the case the but it then says the sun belongs to venus, which many more us are likely to be aware of.

I read another search before the one I have just said about saying the same as all searches mercury being near the sun but tempertature not being very high, which made think that was why we get sunny and cold weather. It seems I was wrong. In this search mercury is responsible for hot and cold tempertature where there's in the day, which would be on mercury 10 times a day brighter the sun temperture 800 F and drops cold at night 300 F.

Mercury can be seen without an telescope but it was first studied by by gulieo Gelilie in the 17th century https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Galileo_GalileiHere is information about Mars  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marshttps://spaceplace.nasa.gov/weather-on-other-planets/en/

Later on Giovanni Zup in 1693 found different to venus and the moon. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Giovanni_Battista_Zupihttps://abc17news.com/news/national-world/2021/05/27/mars-exploration-fast-facts

https://space-facts.com/mars/

Simliar to earth to Mars is a home but the home to the tallest mountain in the solar system whereas the earth is our home. Mars and the sun are roughy the same size as one another. Mar is named after the Roman god, it is a red planet, terrestrian planet with thin atmosphere and contains cardon dioxide accroding to what I have researched online.  Temperature wise there is not much difference between mar and mercury but mars is probely even colder to the point of winter temperture 32 F in the day. Mars can't cope with heat from the sun so night temperature is around 200 F. According to more internet research I have done there isn't enough to feed the water cycle like we have on earth. Mar and earth are rather simliar if not the same that they have roughy the same landmass. 

However' and yet Mars is the 4th planet given by the sun but the 2nd smallest planet on the solar system. Mar is bigger than mercury and is responsible for deserts, giant dust, stroms, winds, cold, atmosphere, dynamic, vocanoes, polar ice and more. 

Earth.

Earth is our home planet responsible for all living, items, objects etc too, everything

everyone around us everywhere, people, places etc. It is the only planet on the solar system with water liquard on the surface. It's the 3rd rock from the sun and the only planet with life. However' it is the 5th biggest planet in the solar system and is hign in density accroding what else I have researched. 

The earth is a rocky planet around the sun after mercury and venus. The distance from the sun brings on water liquard around the surface, which the earth is the only planet water is on. The atmosphere brings nitrgen and oxgen around the earth. This brings on water areas such as seas, lakes, rivers etc and land such as birds, ducks etc. The earth is covered with salt water from the sea. Earht's atmosphere is covered with nitogen and oxgen, venus, mars and cardon dioxide. 

The earth is a shinly blue marable which has and hasn't interested us in a sense some of us take interest but others don't. I know this is hard to understand mean most of us think we don't but we do without realising just by living our lives only we are not all aware of that, we have been ever since we first set foot on the earth. There's so much we can take for grandit without realising even those who are not interested how the planet works are involved without realizing by just living their lives. 

Earth is also is the planet on the solar system that has plate trectionics, which I will go into what they are as this report goes on. The crust of the earth has broken up into region known as tecttionics plates. Key words you could google such as magma interior of the earth. shere, earth, iron, oxgen silicon, earth surface covered with water 4.70 percent, the core of the earth, the earth rotating etc, which are parts of the earth. Composition of the earth, the crust, mantle, outercore and inner core.

The composite earth has layers such as on the outside is the rocky layer called the earth's crust, the mantle is covered by the outer and inner core. The planet is made up with elements 46, percent oxgen, 27.7 silcon, central of the core of earth consists elements, aluninun, 8 percent, 5 percent iron, and 3.6 caclum.

The age of the earth is 4.5 billion years old. 

Temperature of the earth is 61 F and 16 C. 

Also, time is a useful thing to look into such as 365 days of the year, leap year, calader etc. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Time.

Earth only has one moon, earth is the biggest of four, terrestrial planets, besides mercury, venus and mars, terrestrial planet means hard rocky surface of the earth, compositive which is in the iron - core, surounded by the outer crust. 

What is around the earth gives the earth life and what that life is depends on us, which is totally different from all of us, it would be boring if we all thought the same but not everything in life we have a choice on and it's not always necessary we should on most things. There are so many different types of lives as we know, which are millions. 

Geography of earth.

There are seven big land masses that are called continents, Africa, Asia, North American, South American, Europe, Oceania, and Antartica. It has five major bodies of water called oreans natually meaning seas. Atlantic, Pacfic, Indian, Southren, and Arctic oreans. There are such highest points of sea level on earth as Mount Everest and lowest part Mariana Trench. 

 

Empowering us to move forward

Empowering is not a force it is a choice of those you may be helping at least it doesn't intend to be a force. Don't get me wrong there are times there are important things we need to do and don't want to do but that is not in everything. 

In terms of helping someone else compared to yourself you can suggest things but whether they go along with what you say or not is down to them. Not everyone is necessary but some may go on to things that you don't think about or and don't suggest, which is just as good if not better, achievement, etc even more so which is where they doing very well even more so when they are or and been feeling very negative in whatever way, whether there is the reason or not. In most cases for some if not for most people could be self-confidence, motivation, etc. 

Do not force them to do anything just for the case of doing your job, bit, etc. If they have no interest or they don't like something etc it is not helping them at all and it's not making them feel better or positive about themselves. Even what they like, what they enjoy, what they are good at etc isn't going to make them feel perfect but it should or and say will help them live with the way they feel or and even make them feel better than they have been. 

Over the last year or so not just due to the Covid crisis but the Covid crisis has not helped I have written a lot about Mental health and illness on this website. What I write I go by my experience of facing disabilities, mental illness, etc. I myself have had counseling, emotional support, etc, which has been a  huge help, it doesn't make me myself a professional therapist, counselor, emotional supporter, etc. Professions do amazing just jobs but not all live with the problems themselves, which I wouldn't wish or blame anyone it's just life.  All the same feeling and facing the same but similar to your clients makes a difference and also my intentions are not only to help my clients but hopefully help professions understand too.

Mental illness plays a big part for loads of reasons or no reason at all. Either way, Mental illness doesn't affect people the same way it's no excuse for everything, behaviors, etc but it is also a big part and doesn't help either. This makes it hard to know one what or the other unless until you get to know some and even then there isn't always no real knowing. What is hard nine times out of ten when counseling etc you only communicate with a client for so long like for eg; there are sessions only last six months etc unless say they can resign another six months etc. 

To bear in mind I guess in some rules of the law service etc there may be due to funding etc so many times you can allow a client to resign. Therefore in some cases, you may or may not get to know the people you are helping rather well. Mental illness can vary so much some behaviors can be worse than others where your safety and theirs matter so much. Some are dangerous to them, you or both but not all are necessary down to it but mental illness doesn't help, which is a hard one. Yes, by all means, your safety matters, and of course, you have the right to your concerns but I know is an easy thing to say and not everyone will be a danger to you, there are different extremes of danger and you shouldn't have to deal with any unnecessary. 'However' your managers and those over them etc should and have a responsibility for your safety as well as you.  

Just because most clients may refuse things it doesn't make it the fault of them or you, mental illness can have a huge effect on a person, which may be within the person themselves but they shouldn't be blamed for the way they feel. However' again your safety matters and you can only try to help them the best you can if they are refuse it's not down to you to wave any magic wands etc. It's your right to report any safety concerns for you or them to your manager. 

A word of advice for most fields of work is thinking about very carefully whether or not the field is for you or not and Mental health is one of them. Like all fields of work health and safety are involved, which is more so most fields more so than others. My advice is, to be honest with yourself and others meaning the clients and the people work with. Like I have ready said in this report mental illness is not an excuse for every way people behave but also mental illness doesn't help a person in all ways either. However,' mental illnesses isn't something those who face it chose it makes sense to why we have been misunderstood but mental illness can make most of us behave most of us wouldn't on purpose. however' as I said not everything is down to mental illness everyone has good and bad points in different ways which is why not everything should be excused but also the mental illness can be serious but not always, there are mild and major forms, etc.

 Sorry if I defend anyone but I have to say thinking carefully about if this field for you is important meaning in this, I have to be honest which is a hard one because I don't want to defend anyone but it's a little bit like saying if you can't stand the heat get out of the kitchen. I feel guilty to say this because mental illness is hard but safety matters to everyone. Despite health and safety laws, rules, etc it is important for you to think about whether this career is for you or not. Even I feel guilty because I find to word things in a way I can make myself misunderstood without meaning to. What I am trying to do is see things from both sides of making everyone aware that mental illness can be a serious safety risk to one's self and others but everyone is a human being and there's good and bad in everyone, not everything is down to mental illness which is hard to know what is what, which seems a mind field when we except no one to judge us, cause sigma, etc but then when you know you face mental illness yourself it's just raising awareness to help others to put themselves in your shoes and others who face similar if not the same. 

The real point of this report is to raise awareness of how to deal with my mental illness as well as trying to help you help others, which may not always be very helpful sorry to say as everyone you come across is likely to be different. By doing this I will be raising awareness of some if not most of the ways I manage my mental illness. One is to try and help others similar if not the same as me. Secondly is try to focus on things I enjoy and like doing. 3rd raise as much awareness as possible. 

There are many reasons or no reason at all why we feel negative, we all feel negative at times but some of us feel negative more so than others whether it's sadness, anger, etc. It may not always be the case but it may be worth looking into finding out if you or someone you know faces being negative a lot. If so no one is alone and it's to be ashamed of it's just very concerning like I said it may not be the case, in some cases may be a phase that may pass. It's understandable if you or someone you know doesn't want to talk about or and you may just want to tell people you know trust etc or and may you trust no one etc, no voice is forced.  Magic wands cannot be promised but talking may help you manage how you feel, cannot promise to go away but talking to someone may help you deal with it in a positive way, which I know is easy for me to say but you don't have to go along everything they say, they just may suggest things, which may go by their way or and go by your positive ways your choice. 

Now my positive ways what is yours? I will be honest now what I going through depends on the way you look at positive, negative, or both. In most cases, one of the causes of why we feel negative is the weather, whether there can be many others cause too or no causes at all. I understand from my experience to even focusing on what we enjoy, like good at, etc is an effect for us. A little a bit like exercise if you haven't done for a long time, for example, focusing what you like, enjoy, good at starting with say 5 mins or and less, maybe building the time on it each day, etc or think of your own ways if or and when you can. Here is my way for example.

I love writing poetry, short stories, painting learning, raising awareness of disabilities, mental health, etc, mentoring, counseling, advocacy, etc.

Just this lately I have gone into a new study, which tries to understand how science, space, etc works which I never understood in school. However' it's not necessary space but our planet. You know how I said one of the cause to how we may feel in a negative if there's a lot cold bad weather etc, although the weather is part of how planet work it may not be just that. I will be researching and writing about this in my next post. bearing in mind this also includes the positive side as well such as the sun and good weather even probably the right feel of temperate etc.