More on Mental health awareness

 

What is suicidal?

 

It is not easy to know and understand what drives a person to the feelings and thoughts of Suicide not even the person themselves in most cases.

Most cases of Suicidal can be saved if the person talks to someone, which sadly is not always the case because many can be afraid of what others think and say. Society meaning us as a whole need to learn to understand why people feel and think as they do.

 Yes, it is right to say that suicidal deaths have a huge effect on my families, friends, etc but we need to learn to be easy to talk to before these people can speak to us before it gets to the stage of feeling that they want to end their lives, they do not, they want to end their pain, anger, sadness etc.

It is not an easy one when someone is feeling as they do without a reason but all the same, we can try empowering the positives into the person’s life. Very often, this can be the cause of people feeling as they do whether there is a reason or not, the main causes can be Mental illnesses such as Anxiety, Depression, other mental illnesses.

 Without meaning to it is easy to make the person wish they had not said anything by making them feel guilty, by saying they are selfish, making them feel afraid to say anything to anyone.

 However,’ the person has a choice whether they say anything or not, who they tell etc.

  We need to learn as a society needs to learn how people react, not making someone feel in the wrong, ashamed say what's on their minds. 

Don't make them feel selfish is not the answer so it is okay to talk.

 Trying to find out how and why they feel as but it is their choice if they answer or not. We cannot force people to talk and we cannot make people not talk either. 

The worrying thing is the situation on their minds could get worse if not spoken to someone about. Are they telling someone else if not you? 

Risks are whatever is bothering people. Risks are peoples' thoughts increase more.

Concerns of bigger numbers of suicide attempts and deaths.

  We cannot force things out of people either.

Be aware of what can cause suicide such as Anxiety and Depression, and other mental illnesses.

Possible reasons for these thoughts and feelings.

 

Bullying, abuse etc.

Family break- ups.

Relationship break - ups.

Deaths

Mental illness

Social isolate, living alone

Unemployment

Heading towards a lot of drugs, alcohol etc driven by whatever is playing on their minds.

Fearing to talk to anyone, afraid of peoples react to whatever is bothering them even though some people be easy for them to talk to than others.

 Let the person talk and say how they are feeling.

Forus on the person’s safety and yours, they may not be ready for advice yet.

They may just want to talk things off their chest.

If you have any concerns they may hurt, harm themselves or and be danger, call the police.

Sign post them to such local mental health services such as the Samaritans or local mental health crisis team such as Black country line 0345 6460827

How to notice someone is struggling emotionally.

Feeling restless

Feeling anxious

Feeling stressed

Looking tired

Not much energy

Trying to avoid people

Not taking interest, focusing or and enjoying anything

Not being their normal self

Having a lot of drugs, alcohol etc

Talking mostly negative mostly in themselves, such as blaming themselves, feeling useless etc.

They may not respond to phone calls, emails, text, messages etc

Feeling trapped in a situation, if things change, the may struggle to move forward, find the change hard to accept and see a way forward. For eg, broken relationship, marriage, loss of job, business, death of people, someone etc.

A little, too much of things compare to they are normally, such as sleeping, eating etc.

 

Crisis situation maybe

Death of people they know.

Relationship or marriage break up

Job loss, changes

Business loss, changes

Housing problems

Money problems

Education and learning stress, struggling with study, exam nervus etc

Bully, abuse etc

Loneliness

Depression, Anxiety, and other Mental illnesses

Disability issues etc

Feeling a burden to others etc

Offer them support if you and they feel comfortable.

The unknown is hard, but most people may not talk because they may be afraid of the reaction of others, they may fear to be misunderstood, they may fear what others may think of them, they may only talk to certain people depending on the situation, they may feel comfortable talking to people they know, they feel comfortable talking to those they do not know.

Everyone is different.

 Some may think they can manage the problem themselves, but it is not always the case, many may feel otherwise.

 Either we cannot make people talk or not to. However,’ with some just because they may not talk now, they may in the future.

 No one is made to talk as I said but nothing goes away if you don’t however’ nothing can be promised to necessary can be sorted but it take more than one person, service etc before it does.

Despite of counsellors etc having to work to privacy rules etc some people may not want to talk to a complete stranger about their problems as others maybe fine to do so.

Who do you or someone else feel comfortable about to talking about what to who, what and where?

What sort of problem can you listen to what someone maybe facing?  For example: money problems, relationship problems, family problems, school, college, bullying, abuse, struggling through education, supporting people through trying to get off or and down drugs, alcohol etc.

 

It is easy to worry about talking to someone if you are concerned in case, you may be wrong or you make them react worse without mean to?

 Shall I say something or not?

 What is the right thing to say?

 Will they wonder why I am trying to talk to them, or will they thank me for trying?

They are struggling one way or another.

No one is forus to talk or forus not to talk so do not make them talk of they do not want to.

Whether someone is struggling or not, it is not easy to tell, they may or not show they these signs below, some of them, one of them all of them or even other signs.

It is even harder to know if you do not know someone.

Try to have as much time as the person needs, if not find someone who may.

If the person does talk let them talk as long or as short as they want to.

 Do not rush them, do not interrupt unless they ask you to etc, otherwise wait until they have finished.

Write down or type what the person has said.

When you have finished read what you have wrote to them just to see if you have understood what they have said correctly.

 

If you have concerns that they may be thinking about suicide, self-harm etc whether it is online or somewhere else, if they things like I want to give up.