New year up date to the Disabilities, Health problems and Socializing group.

Hi all some of you may be aware and others may not be, I think most of you may be. We set up a Mental Health yesterday with David Young. First of all I very sorry to all of you for trying to let work with us. I thought he may have been an extra Admin for us. Some of may already know what happened others may not. All I can say that things didn't turn out how we thought. Thanks to one of the Mental Health groups they got him out of our lives sooner rather than later. It looks as as you may be aware his group is reported and he's band from Facebook.  You may or not be aware then he was trying to advertise admins for us. All the same this is not proper work or proper business and no is getting paid for it so no one is tied to it. Everyone is busy and not busy at different times. For my management it's just when people can help but when people want to help. I am not forcing anyone to become 4th Admin or Manager we can manage either way, we have manged so far but if anyone is interested please let us know, if not not a problem will mange like we always do.

You may have been aware that his ideas of the group was different  my ideas with the Mental Health group, which I did feel I could say a lot to because he was first manager and admin to that group. You may have read that he had no safety rules. He also said no one should be told what to do. No one should told what to do but then there should be some control to make it fair to others. He also wanted the group as a dating which I disagreed with because feel people then can feel force on how they socialize with people, which is why with our socializing group we have set it up where you guys can feel free to ask if you would like us to support you if you want us to look for any Friendship and Dating site by adding the link on the group then the rest is up to you until your stuck on anything and you need any support on a Friendship and Dating site because some can be hard to use.

Hi Welcome to the Disabilities, Health problems and Socializing group I Sara Gorman is the 1st Admin and Manager, Tim Hodge my partner is the 2nd Admin and Manager and Jen 3rd relief Admin and Manager

This group is the Learning disabilities, Health problems and Socializing group.

The idea of group is so people with disabilities and health problems can socialize with one another in the way they wants as long as they respect one another's feelings for one another.

  Everyone's safety matters to both me, to all of us managing the groups that we, this is why we have safety rules to the groups. No one is telling anyone what to do but we want to make the members feel safe. That means everyone to make everyone feel safe. We feel that everyone who joins us is important.

Like we have no right telling members what to do but we can give advice and tips in case members do want to go along with whatever we suggest. We will be honest to say we may go overboard with lots of safety rules because we want our members to be safe and enjoy our groups in the best way you can. We may put on dating and friendship tips.

If you want to go places with friends or you meet a partner on the group or even off the group Dave, me, Tim and Jen if and when one of us, two or three of us are free if want support you to find places and that for to go we can look online, if you need our help or and even our advice.

  

 We would like to think there’s more to our groups than just the safety rules so we will work our hardest to see our groups are enjoyable to you as much as possible. Please post things to the purposes of our groups. We may ask you for some feedback ever so often just to find out whether or not we setting the groups up to your enjoyment and benefit.

Due to my Dyslexia I find it hard to put things in a short way.

Please feel free to ask for support if there’s anything to you can’t read and understand anything I write.

Please make new members aware that this is not a dating site but if you ask us, we will look for Friendship and Dating links online if that’s what you want. We do not match make people but we are there to support if people ask us to find links and that. We do not force anything to people. This is a public group but if people get together more than just friends, they are still welcome to stay on the group but private life to be off the group. We are also willing to look for links on counselling and emotional support if people ask for it whether it’s other a relationship break up or for any other reason that members have the choice whether they tell us or not.

 People also need to respect that things don’t always go their way so they must respect if the person they like isn’t single then they must accept that. If they have a partner or married and someone on this group is excepting more of them, they have every right to report that person. Whether the person is removed or not, we will let the choice be down to the person who has reported them. If they do give them a second chance then we will be keeping an on the person who was reported to see that they don’t bother anyone else or the person who reported them otherwise they will be removed.

  

 Please offer new members support just in case they may feel they may need support look for links or even help them join. Not everyone finds most information accessible or easy to read. We are also willing to support people to find counselling or emotion support websites if they feel they need it. Let the new members know that the idea of this group is for people to communicate with one another to their choice and to respect one another’s choice.

The idea of this group is so people with disabilities and health problems can socialize with one another in the way they wants as long as they respect one another's feelings for one another. We are not a dating site, we don’t force and match make people together  but please feel free to ask us to look for dating and friendship sites online if you want.

  Everyone's safety matters to both David, I, Tim and Jen so we will be having a lot of safety rules, dating and friendship tips. If you want to go places with friends or you meet a partner on the group or even off the group me, Tim and Jen if and when one of us, two or three of us are free if want support you to find places and that for to go we can look online, if you need our help or and even our advice.

Your welcome to add videos, posts, reports such as pop music, films, entertainment, comedy, biographies and etc.

Bear in mind we all like different things because we are all different people, if you can't accept what some people put on the group you may not like don't comment at all if it makes you angry, take time off the group if you are a person who can get up tight easily. If you decide to leave the group or any of the groups please let us know but don’t have to tell us the reasons unless you want to.

  This is a group on face book so guys you make your own choice how you communicate with others in the group as long as they feel the same way as you do but if they don't feel the same way, don't push them into what you may not want and they may not.

 Please do not show that behavior on the group but if someone is wanting their own way and they are not taking no for an answer you have every right to report he or she to us, we will have no one feeling force into anything in this group. The choice of what happens is then down to your decision whether you want them off the group or they can stay as long they don’t talk to you.  We just to keep a very close eye on what the person is writing.
 If we seem to take a long time to reply because we are busy for whatever reason, if problems are really bad on the group and you decide to leave, leave a message on my profile to tell us You don't have to say why unless you want to. Just private message us if you are added as a friend to us otherwise just write the message on the your leaving. Guys if you see messages like this please keep an that no is deleting them otherwise they will be band. We like to be aware of out numbers of members on our groups mainly because we have so many groups.
If the problem on whatever group is too bad for you to stay, I would advise you to take time off that group until we can reply or if it has distressed that much let us know if you are leaving all our groups some, one and etc  or and Facebook so we know whether to reply to your message or not. If your staying Facebook please look for look our reply. We reply as soon as we are aware of your message.
 If we are taking too long to reply, I would advise you to take time of the group if things are really but look out for one of us messaging on the Social group. If needs be add me as friend then if you do have problems you could message me on private face book.

 Jen may come on the groups ever so often to keep an on the groups if she is free when me and Tim are not. If you have 

anything important to say or report please tell Jen and ask her to report to myself and Tim, if there's anything important we need to know. If someone is not safe to be on the groups for the safety of members we need to be told as soon possible. Saying if we have a long period of time we are not around and the situation too dangerous to wait then please report to face book. Not everyone knows how report things to Facebook but you face situation that needs to report it and you can't cope then asking util you find a person who can deal with it. Please don't leave a dangerous situation to get more dangerous. 

Please accept we can't have our own way all the time. Not every is going to be unmarried and single. Not everyone is going to be interested in a certain person. No one should force someone to feel force into anything don't want. If someone is forcing and bullying to feel the same as them please feel free to report them to us. There is an old saying if you love someone that much you let them go. You can't much of that person if you can't accept them not feeling the same you. Like said this group is about people socializing they want as long as every ones feel are same. If not either live with or leave the group if you can't accept they want things but do remember will be down to the person themselves to decide that not you all us. All the same if they want you remove then we will go along with their wishes. If you are to get a 2nd chance where they may say, you can stay as long as you don't have anything to with me. We will be keeping close on you that you don't upset others or and you don't upset that person again. 

Mine and Tim’s story.

Me and Tim met on a Disabled Dating site back in January 2013,  then we added one another as friend and started chatting private face book, we have carried on doing so ever since and we have met one another in person a good many times as well.

If anyone feels they want to get to know someone a bit more and the other person feels the same way then I would advise you to add each other as a friend like me and Tim did, then chat on private Face book. I won’t accept anything private on the group.

Just to let you know myself Tim are a couple.

We are your friends but we have one another.

Jen has a partner too.

Unless we know you in person we will not give out our contact details.

Safety advice for those who could date.

Your question maybe, how long will it be until I trust a person?

Make sure someone you know is with you if you meet someone new for the first time.

Respect one another’s feeling, if someone doesn’t accept that you may not feel the same as they do, then that’s not your problem.

Never pres sager someone to feel the same as if they don’t feel the same way as you do.

Trust is something you need to build, which can be very hard when you have been hurt so many times.

Some people can be rather nice to start but they may not be the person in the end, they were to start.

It’s always an idea to be at a balance, you never know who you have lost until you have lost them or they may not turn out to be the person you hoped for.  

Sometimes things don’t work how you hope; don’t except to be lucky first time.

 You be given a choice say you want them removed altogether or they can stay as long as they don’t talk to you.

  I know what it feels like to feel for someone who’s not interested in you, I have been there myself and it's not a nice feeling but please accept it in respect the person and the rest of the member or leave the group.

 Personally I would advise you not to give your personal details to one another until you get to know one another, don’t give them out to anyone on the group either, this is more so for your safety. 

You may want to met as friends or and add one another as a friend and chat private, which is away from the group, which is for your own safety.

 I know myself from experience it can be too easy to trust people too soon.

Your question may how long should it take until I trust the person. Depending on how you find the person, on you and how they find you. 

Sometimes things don’t work as you hope.

If for any reason the person doesn’t accept those please respect their wishes or leave the group.

We are adults, we are human and we all make mistakes but only so many things can be forgiven depending on the person you’re communicating with.
 You have rights to report someone who may be making your life very unhappy on the group.
 For example if you are planning to meet one another please plan it in private and outside the group.

 We will accept it if we see messages like.

Can we add each other as friends on Face book but that is none of our business.

 If you could be dating please don’t date on the group but it’s possible that you could meet on group before you date.

  

Reporting  problems.

Just let you know this isn’t a dating site as such, Dave me, Tim and Jen are not your match makers if you want to find yourselves a partner, Dave me and Tim will support you to find Friendship and Dating links, if we are not around then please find out if others in the group will support you, otherwise we will support you when we are free if you ask us, thank you.

 We can’t make your choices for you in a partner that is down to you.

If you were hoping for a partner this group and no luck we have no problems looking for friendship and dating sites online if you need the support to do so.

 This group is here for you to socialize and connect to people you want as long as other people feel the same way.

Please accept if someone doesn’t feel the same way as you do.

 If you feel the opposite to someone to how they are feel about you and they are not accepting that to a point they are presaging you, please feel free to report to us .

 If no one is free message me on my profile Sara Jane Gorman either myself, Tim or even Jen will get back to you when either one of us is free. Me, Tim and Tim can be busy ourselves at times so there may be times we may be slow to reply but as soon as we are aware of your report we will reply to you when we are aware.

I have added many of you as friends so if you have any problems with anything or anyone in the group you can report it on my private message.

Like you and everyone I have another life there may be times for whatever reason I could be slow at replying to you. If or when that happens, if the problem is really bad take time off the group you have the problem but look out for my message replying. It may be for whatever reason you may feel you want leave the group make us aware but you don’t have to give reason unless you want to.

It may not happen very often but I may have a patch I may not be on there if I am on holiday or something as I may have very little or no internet but as soon as I am free I will communicate with you.

 The same goes for Tim and Jen too but they will have permission to check my profile if they are free and I am not they will communicate with you when they are free to do so then make me aware.

 There’s a possible chance you may or may not know people on the group already, if not I would advise you to think at a balance. Don’t judge someone before you know them but be aware anyone could be anyone at any time.

Drinking rules for those who drink.

drink in, go on the group before after they go out. I drink myself so the same applies to me too. In fact both and I, Tim and Jen try to go by the same rules as we except you guys to. Due to me having to create a new profile and groups this is why I am updating them.

Everyone is welcome to have a drink and many of us have been there said and done things we wouldn’t normally say and do so just keep on the wall  on the group, if say you had a fair few drinks the night before and delete it if you think.


“Oh I didn’t say that did me?” If you have deleted someone has said and know they wouldn’t normal say it, make them aware you going to delete.


Try to be sensible with drink if you can but have one by all means.

 If you know certain drinks affect you, don’t drink them and if someone has said you upset them the night before or something please say sorry to them and delete the message if it’s still on there.

 We have set up this group as a possible start for you to be friends with someone or more if you both want, one or both of you may always want to be just friends.

Please also accept, it’s Jen and Tim’s choices if they don’t want added you as friend, that doesn’t mean that they mean anything nasty by; it just means they are private people. Those of you who may be add as a friend to Jen, Tim, I of leave, if you have any problems to do with the groups’ leaves us a private message. Those of you not added to us, sorry to say you will have to write it on the wall, one of us to be around then it would be reported to other. If there are times none of us are free we will reply to you as soon as we are free do as If the problem is major and we are slow at replying take time off the group until we can reply to you.

 Don't get me wrong me and Tim would be happy for you to us and the group if you get with someone on the group but whatever is private take away from the group.

 By all means if you go to any interesting, nice places and you have on our group for example if you go to London and you both see London bridge if want to add pictures or and videos of that kind of thing that is fine but nothing private or personal in respect of each other and members of the group. 

 All the same we don’t find people for you the idea of this group are to make your own choices.

I will advice though if you are not single and someone is interest in you, you do have right to make them aware of that, they should be adult enough to accept what you say. 

If they don’t accept what you say on this group, you have rights to tell me or and Tim, just how you want us to deal with it and we will deal with it your way, even if you want the person removed from the group.

This means you don’t have to be single

to join us, you may have very few or no friends.

 You may want a partner or you may want a friend.

 You may find even find if you are singer something that started off as friendship may turn into a relationship.

Although we don't find people we will add dating and friendship links on the group in case you want to look.

 I and Tim don’t force people together.

http://www.disabled-world.com/communication/disabled-dating/advice/

 Hi everyone, if anyone has joined us please read the purpose and safety rules of the group. Now as this is a socializing group, like all groups me and Tim run I want people to be safe. This group could take quite a while for us to set up because we can never tell with us humans, with some people we mix with forever and others we don't.

For so much that needs to be added to this group for people to enjoy and be safe, face book will never allow me to fit it all in the description so I write it on the wall and copy it on my website. When you think of this group, think of it as a pub or club say. You may a have a good many friends and you may even have a partner already or you meet your partner there.

For the safety of the group we need to be a harsh because we care about your safety.

All this information may seem all too much but with socializing there's a lot to think about to keep safe.

We will accept no swearing or falling out, if have a problem with someone keep it away from the group in respect of the other members.

I, Tim and Jen are not response for what chose you make. Saying that I myself made a lot of wrong choices before I met Tim so we can’t get right first time as a lot of us know who have been there.


I myself have gone through many failed relationships before I met Tim and became interested in people who weren't interested in me and many who were to start with hurt me in the end so I more than know what it feels like to be hurt.



 What that has taught me things don't always turn out you want all the time, which is how I felt at the time but I feel nothing for ex boyfriends now.

This is why I the best I can do for you is add links on counselling and emotion support, it will be there if you want it.
These things may or may not happen, you meet someone on the group, it may work out then it may not. I will honest with you accept anything either way.

You may decide you may want to leave the group; you may leave for life or come back. If you stay or come back we will try to keep the group as friendly as we are trying to keep it now.

 I more than understand what it's like to leave somewhere because of a memory with a certain person.

 Me and my one ex boyfriend to go to a club together when he left me, I left the club twelve months then I came back, it me ages to face it without thinking about memories I had with him, now I think nothing of him.

Nothing comes quick if you chase it.

 Like I said though we don't find dates and friendships for people, it's down you guys to find yourself.

·       Please be patience with us as it can take a lot of work to make the groups enjoyable and safe.

·       We can’t promise anything over night.


 If you are single and looking for love we can’t promise that will happen right away and it's not certain that you could meet the right person here but you never know.

Like I said if find out someone you like isn’t single please accept they already have partner.

Do not push them into anything they don't want to do, they report you to us you will be removed from the group.

 I don’t want anyone to fear anyone so please don’t think you have to put up with someone forcing you into anything you don't want, don't fear to report them if they are making your life hell.

Your choice whether you want to leave the group or through a broken relationship in or out the group. We can’t force you to stay or go. If you do leave you are welcome to come back any time you want if you as long as we haven’t removed you from any of our groups for another reason.

Hi guys I know spoke about earlier but does concern me. Now Our groups have grown in numbers on the groups and the amount of groups, ok that's the choice we have made and we accept responsibility that our work is getting harder. The last thing we want is our members feeling force into to things you don't want to do. If by any chance any of us have added and invited you and haven't want to join, may we added before and you haven't wanted to join, please leave a message her or private face book message your added as a friend to us just let us so by mistake we don't added you again. I will copy this on the purpose on the websites so it's always there. This doesn't mean just one group all our groups. If in the future you change your mind not that we are pushing you do so but just in case you do, your added as friend to one of us, you could always private message us or if your not added to either of us put the name of the group on the search engine on face book's home page meaning the news feed. If you more happy to stay with us please enjoy the groups to their purposes, yours and everyone's safety thank you.

Safety Rules.

1. Respect each other’s opinion even if you disagree.

2. Please say why you disagree and leave at that.
3. Please report to me if a person is upsetting you then I will remove them.
4. If the person is giving you a hard time over whatever, please me know and I will remove the person from the group whether they like it or not and whether others like it or not. Same the other way round.
5. I don't want anyone on here to feel bullied, threaded, abused and I accept no discrimination either.

6.   Don’t ask someone to the group unless they, myself, Tim or and Jen are aware. (Please let us know.)

7.   No bullying or hate crime, if you face any of this off anyone in this group please report to me, Tim or Jen, then they will be removed.

8.   Nothing sexual in post, videos or writing, you can raise awareness of learning disabilities, health problems and sexual health through.

9.   No advertising product.

10. I myself know how you feel because I have been down the road with others before I met Tim and that took me a lot of counselling, emotion support and poetry and top of that.

11. We can fully understand if you decide to leave the group after a possible break but if not we promise to be the best support we can and hope you meet someone else on here if not here somewhere else.

12. This is a pubic group so think of yourself as if you are in a pub or club chatting to the people.

13. Both I and Tim are aware it’s hard for a lot of people with disabilities and health problems to get out and about socializing with the crime been so high.

14. Those of you who may not be aware Tim and I both manage a group called Hate Crime towards Disabled people if you care to join us.

15. We don’t want anyone suffering silent in this group to a point they feel threatened, bullied, abused and etc. 

6.Don't suffer in silent but then you are not force to tell us anything you don’t want to either, this is just to let you have no need to be scared of us if you do decide to tell us.


 17. Please be patience and things could go your way with someone else or just leave the group.


18. Do not make things not enjoyable for the other members!

19. If there's someone you don't like don't speak them.

20. Don't make it unfair and unpleasant for the rest of the group, either talk to myself, Tim may be even Jen or even leave the group there's anything or anybody you can't accept or even cope with. 

 21.If something is getting to you that badly your feel to take some time off the group or even leave, that is your choice if do leave but let us know, you don't have to tell us the reason if you don't want.


22. Just remember this is a socializing group not a dating group.
 If you meet someone it's not through me and Tim, it will be through your own choices.
   No talk of drugs unless it’s certain awareness of disabilities and health problems.

25.   No poin pictures to the group any member’s profile, if member of this group does anything on your profile we give rights to report it to us then we will remove them.

26.   If by any chance to you have very strong dislike towards someone and they are bugging you that much, please leave the group in respect of the other members, you don’t have to give a reason unless you want to.

27.    I will not accepting no falling out in groups I run, report the person to us if they are causing you any harm in any way, sharp and form.

28.     If you are aware of anyone breaking these rules please let us know thank you.

29. Do respect not everyone on here is likely to be single; they could be on here on their own or partner just to make friends.  Sorry there are a lot of rules but we just want everyone to be safe. 

30. Keep your private life private.  Although our rules are for you to keep your private life private, which tell stands, if you ask myself, Tim or the members we will research for any sexual health advice online if you ask or if you need support to find it.

31.If anyone becomes a couple then only tell us and or the group if you want to.

32. You are welcome to put on picture of if you have been anywhere nice with a friend or a partner.

33. Also me, Jen and Tim are not responsible if you meet someone on here and doesn't work out how you hoped but if things are hitting you that badly we will look for counselling or and emotion support if you want but sorry that's best we can do.

34. You are allowed to have general chats about everyday life all topics positive and negative.

35.Have a laugh a joke, be serious depending what the situation is, debate but if something make you feel really angry take time off the group or leave if you want but as I said let us know but it's your choice whether you tell us the reason or not.

Please enjoy yourself but keep your talk safe, clean and sensible.

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·   36.     Guys I accept there are going to be different who think different ways. 

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37.  We will accept no swearing or falling out.

38 Me and Tim have wards so we can't promise what you hope for is going to happen but my advice is be patience because you never know but then you are welcome to be friends with people take whatever happens.

Please do not delete any posts that admins write and add, you should have no reason to delete our post if you do please ask us first and tell us the reason why, you will be remove from the groups if we see you deleting our posts is not a good reason and you still delete our post or if you delete our post without us knowing.

.Another rule we have not thought of is not that it's happen to us, please do not block any of the admins otherwise you will be removed thank you.

. The Admins rights and safety matter as well as yours.

. If you become aware of anyone breaking our rules please feel free to report them they will be removed thank you.

 Thank you from  Sara Jane Gorman, Tim Hodge and Jennifer Gilbert Harvey

  

Tim’s Socializing and Safety awareness story.

This happened to Tim could happen to anyone but we are trying to make sure doesn’t.

Can as many people on face book please share and comment on this about epilepsy? Thank you. A week last weekend this happened to me, I have Epilepsy.
I was up town with 4 of my mates early hours of last Saturday morning in night club and I had 1 of my epilepsy seizures and Jane was trying to make the bouncers aware I was in an epilepsy seizure but 1 of them push her a side then picked me up still when I was in the pass out epilepsy seizure pulled me off the floor pulled me up the stairs and out of the entrance door, I was not even coming out of the seizure until I was out side. this is awful my mate a mate of my is having a word with the boss of the night club about how awful treatment I had I have contact my local paper + the epilepsy people so please comment about your thoughts on this and share this with your friends.