We all have different minds. Poems of 2020 into 2021 for new.

 Different minds.

We all think different 

We all have different minds.

It would be a boring world if we were all the same.

Some of us think how we think on purpose and others don't.

Hard to think who does what and when.

I asked myself why I think as I do but got no answers to my mind.

Let's not judge one another because we don't know one another's minds either. 

Rightly or wrongly, agree or disagree let's follow the rules because the longer the government and scientists will keep this lockdown going.

This is impossible to accept because everyone's' mind is so different.

It's so hard to see an end to the lockdown but never say never. 

What a load of rubbish.

I don't write to be famous.

I don't chase dreams.

I just write because I want to.

I don't write to be right all the time because it's impossible to be right all the time.

I am just human like everyone, I get things wrong.

I am no one special, I just write and mostly a load of rubbish.

 Be no one but one's self, never be someone your not. 

Keep on writing even if it's a load of rubbish, you never know what comes to light and mind.

I ask my mind why I think as I do, I get no answers or I go blank to a point I have no ideas to write about at all, just rubbish.

I don't write for talent.

I write what I am thinking about, not for talent.

My mind is just full of words not poems.

Yesterday has gone so it doesn't matter.

Today is here, it's today what matters.

Tomorrow we deal with when it comes.

Something needs to be done.

We can't keep on being locked up in prison as if we have done a crime not everyone has done wrong but those who haven't have to suffer for those who have.

We know we are locked down to protect ourselves from the Coranvirus but we are risking our mental health as well.

Mental health risks are increasing as much as Coranvirus risk is so we need to draw a line.

It's now been almost a year since we were aware of the lockdown and Coronavirus.

The rules are confusing to most people and not everyone understands them, they change too quickly.

Mainly to those of us who are vulnerable. 

Just only keep important places open so people can shop to feed themselves, medication, toiletries, etc. 

People just want to end their pain but not their lives but many are likely to be pushed to the longer this lockdown goes on.

This could mean an increase in suicides and as well as Coranvirus deaths.

This could cause more work for counsellors than ever before, which is a job that's doing from home either. 

Easy to forget.

So much over talking the mind like Xmas, new year and the Coranvirus lockdown to a point one cannot think at all.

Yes, these matters are very important but let's not forget about the snow and sunset. 

Now white Christmas has come late but the white new year has early.

New year's eve afternoon to evening is lighter longer.

This chimney smoking bright fire as the new year comes in.

The first of January new year's day 2021 comes to light.

Bring on the bright lights of the night as fireworks come into the dark of the night.

Spring is on its way for lighter days.

Journal poems.

How many poems I write I am not aware of.

As far as I am aware they are just words.

No awareness of spelling, grammar etc. 

It's just a journal of words.

I write because my mind is thinking a lot to a point I go blank.

Dear Mind

 

Introduction

My name is Sara Jane Gorman, I am an Awareness trainer of learning disability and mental health, this issue I would not wish it on anyone, sadly rape and abuse can happen to anyone, and no one should have to face it but sadly it has always happened and still does.

 

It is all in your mind they said but no was not because it has never been forgotten. Life goes on and the only way life goes on realizing I am not alone, which I used to think I was alone, and I thought I was imaging things, I thought I was going mad then over the years I found out many others faced the same as me in different times and ways. I would think of others anyway but raising awareness and realizing I am not alone is my way of getting on with my life and trying to help others going through if not the same but similar.

This a story of a childhood experience I do not know how to put it into words to make sense to others, I never have been able to.

 For over 40 years now what I am writing about today is bad memories not words and that is because of having disabilities, special needs, mental health, etc.

 What happened is hard to forget no matter how hard I try not remembering but even now I struggle to put it into words. However,’ I am trying to put it in the best possible way I can for not just for my sake but for others of all generations and ages, who have faced rape and abuse. Sadly, rape and abuse still happen, even though it is dealt with a different way than it was more than 40 years ago and more where people had bad memories but worse no voices now, we have if we wish to say.

 

 

 However,’ even so not everyone finds it easy to say mainly if you have disabilities, mental health or and other problems, children, teenagers, the elderly, etc. How can you help these people to have a voice if they wish to, your support matters? No one can force people to talk but there are ways people can if they wish to. https://helplines.org/helplines/supportline-2/

https://www.supportline.org.uk/

https://www.victimsupport.org.uk/help-and-support/get-help/supportline

https://www.thesurvivorstrust.org/faqs/supportline

Just to say sorry about the story is not being very written as I am Dyslexia. Just to say the way it happened in the story to the character did not happen to me in the same way, but I did face rape and abuse within the school but not on a school trip.

 

  Dear Mind

It was all in her mind, but it is not; she must have had a nightmare the time when Cherry Rose Pike was attacked on a school trip to London. 

   January to February 1982 with Woodfield Special Boarding school. The truth is that she was not believed.

Cherry had lost sight of children and staff as they were crossing the traffic lights and Cherry had lost her whereabouts.

What Cherry then saw the gate open into Saint James’s park round about 4.00pm on a dark Friday evening.

Suddenly an old guy named Jack brown grabbed her and pushes her into the nearest hedge as Cherry screams blue murder as he forces himself on her. She had no idea what was happening to her, she thought he was going to kill her.

She never saw what he looked like, other than long grey hair and bred.

“Get off me, leave me alone!” as Cherry screamed

 

 It was so sudden, dark, and quick, it was hard for her to notice much as the Park keeper came as quick as he could, then grabbed Jack by the scruff of his neck.

 

 Jack ran off, then Ralph the keeper took Cherry to the Police station.

 

Ralph found it hard to know what to say, other than.

“Where are you from and how are you here?”

“My name is Cherry Rose Pike, from Wolverhampton, I am on a Special Boarding school trip and I lost sight of everyone.”

“Oh, dear they are all worried about you and your parents but let’s get to the police station they will help you to get home.”

Cherry was shaking and too much in shock to speak.

Ralph struggled to cope with the situation as he told the police behind the desk what happened and left.

 

 

 

Cherry was 12 years of age, raped by Jack Brown at Saint James’ Park London 4.05 pm, Friday 31^st January 1982.

She was pumped in the stomach and had two black eyes.

Cherry was special needs; went to special schools and she was in a child’s home and also raised by her Mother’s family.

As a result of the rape, she was pregnant, but baby Nike Pike was adopted for a year as Cherry a year after the birth of the baby came into contact with her father, the baby’s Grandfather Fred who supported her.

On the night of the rape, it took a while for the school to realize there was a child missing as they called the police and cherry family on the way back to Wolverhampton. Cherry was then picked up by her family at the Police station in London. By Sara Jane Gorman  

 

Awareness of learning disability, mental health and other issuses.

Awareness has always been important in all issues but in but since March 2020 as everyone knows the world has been facing the coronavirus lockdown, which as much as lives changing one way another for everyone social distance are health and safety health and safety reason but affects and changes our lives to how we used to live our lives.

When it comes to learning disability and mental health people who face disability, mental health and other problems need more support than other people but the health and safety of those who support these people matter as well as the people who need the support. I am writing this report to say I am not saying there is no awareness and no support but more needs to be done. All this can vary some people are getting awareness support, others are not and others are not. 

I feel there needs to be more awareness on the tv as well as the internet. As way back as far in my childhood, I can remember I have been a fan of Coronation Street, say from the age of 5 and I am now 51. My family members have watched it on and off throughout their lives as well since it started in 1960. 

This December, it's Coronation street's 60th birthday, which I have been watching on youtube before, during, and guess I will go on watching after Xmas. The point of this report is I have noticed over the years that Coronation street has done many awareness scenes such as Sarah Lou's teenage pregnancy, mental health emotional stress scene after Calum had put Sarah through mental-emotional stress. Tina O, Brain has done an amazing job of acting in these scenes, Jack Shepard as David Platt has done a great job of acting in Epilepsy and a rape scene, Sally and her breast cancer awareness which was also amazing work, etc.  These awareness scenes are aimed at letting people know that these situations can happen to anyone at any time, which makes me think awareness of these issues needs to keep getting raised in different ways, whether it's in talks, power points, role plays, tv, etc.  

Creating accessible power points.

 The purpose of power points is mostly about doing a talk about all topics whether it's about you, another person, items, businesses, subjects, animals, teaching,  studies, work, etc in front of people who are interested in the same if not similar interest to you.

There is no right or wrong way of doing a PowerPoint, there are many power points on youtube, etc from the point of view of others but not in everyone is everyone's' pupils, students, teachers, etc.

The most important thing is to know what you want to or going to do your work on whether it's for you, someone, or somewhere. 

Plan your PowerPoint before you create it. 

The art of PowerPoint is making it accessible for others, which is hard to do because everyone is different sees things differently. 

It's understandable no has time and no one wants to sit and watch a PowerPoint all day no matter how someone creates it so it's best to make it as short and sweet as possible.

It's very likely you are not going to please everyone with your work because what stands out for some people doesn't for others. 

For that reason, it may be best to make sure your sound in talking, etc is as clear as possible so people can catch as much of the PowerPoint as possible.

Mainly you do powerpoints a lot maybe create a website for handouts in case you don't time to cover everything or and in case people take everything mainly if you any reason you may not create anything like or similar to it again.

Having a website may save you time and money on printing, paper, etc, that way you could put your website address on your power or and send it to the people who are seeing the PowerPoint by email. 

Try to talk as loud as you can but do not shout.

Create videos if can etc. 

Get to know your zoom you can fit as much of your work as you possibly can onto your slide. 

Go to Design, slide size, custom slide size to discover width and height.

Not forgetting, clear writing, pictures, icons, shapes, colors, etc; eg 20 to 36 title, 20 to 32 subheadings, normal writing 20 to 28 as far the writing will go to make it clear as possible, bullet points, 123, ABC, smart art, etc. 

Creating a Learning Disability and Mental Health Training Business plan.

 

My name is Sara Jane Gorman, I face disabilities, mental health, and other problems, which is Dyspraxia, Dyslexia, mild Autism, Epilepsy, Anxiety, and Depression.

I am Keen to set up a small Learning Disability and Mental Health training Awareness business from the first-hand experience.

My idea is to raise awareness among those who are working or and studying in the field of disability, mental health, and other problems. To find support for, to empower people with disabilities, mental health, and other problems.

 Also, to educate and train services, businesses, etc around learning disability and mental health, which includes these issues such as health, housing, careers, talent, hobbies, interests, socializing, public Advocacy, private Advocacy, easy read, coronavirus lockdown, etc.

Empowerment in mental health in poetry.

 We are here for you.

No one is going to force you to talk to us.

No one is forcing you to be quiet either.

We don't want to think of you struggling alone and afraid to ask for help if you feel you want to or and need it. 

We understand trusting people is a very hard thing and when you don't us, it's understandable you don't want to tell anyone anything. 

There is no easy way of saying this and I am with you all the way.

You may think what is she doing typing random things, she knows nothing about me?

Yes, your right but I may not know how you are feeling but I know I have faced mental health issues myself and I know that doesn't make me know everything.

All the same, you don't need to have to cope and alone and struggle, you are not forced to do anything you don't want to do either and I am not saying I am the person to help necessary but plenty of other people, services, charities, etc ofter to too.  

When I had a break down twenty - three years ago I had no idea there was such thing as counselling till someone said when I was at college, there's a counsellor in the college.

My reaction was no, they may think I am crazy, mad etc.

No, they won't they are just trying to help, just suggesting things that's all.

For however long, I thought no way, in time it seemed to me as I feeling I wasn't going to get any better and I thought I will try and I can easily walk away if I don't like it.

Then I was so glad I tried, then unexcepted to me and the councillor even I found myself writing poetry and things were starting to improve slowly. 

However' this is just an example not everything helps for everyone but it might be something different than it was for me. 

People used to say to me time is a good healer, which I never believed at first but then became true even though it took me years to feel myself again but it may some sooner and others longer. 

I never took medication. 

Not saying it was the right or wrong thing to do.

Not saying anyone else should or shouldn't take medication.

I was once advised when I was feeling really down in myself but I decided not to because I feared it may have made worse or and I would end up getting too used to taking them.

I admit I am not pleased with myself that I drank heavily for about twelve months when I had my break down but soon as I was getting counselling and I was writing my poetry I started to cut the drink down a bit. 

I don't believe in judging anyone because I have been there myself.

Never directly tell someone to give up drinking, smoking etc, suggest it if people are going to give them up they will give them up in their own time but supporting them along the way is fine. 

Hidden emotions but nothing is lie.

Just to say that these poems aren't about me personally but how life is generally one way or another for everyone with this lockdown going on.

 When most people think of mental health, they think people who face it always being sad, moody, and showing it all the while this is not the case and they are not trying to hide anything either or lie to anyone. If we showed how we really feel about life in work, study, etc, chances are likely no one would want to be in our company even though they may have known what we are facing in. Besides, there is more to the person other than what they face and the way that they react to how life treats them, etc.

Most people may imagine people being hard to work with, those facing mental health, even disability issues, and other problems when for a lot of people feel things are not good in life when not working, studying, or doing something. Over the years I have found myself doing things to keep myself busy even if no one else has. For example; my work with the university when that is going but when it's not it is down to me to keep myself going but that is not in everyone. 

Even a lot of famous people face mental health and on the whole, they spend a lot of time working, etc. Even comics, comedians, etc face depression and other mental health issues. people who you may think that wouldn't.  http://www.mentalhealthministries.net/resources/flyers/famous_people/famouspeople.pdf

Strong to get by. 

Just when you think you cannot cope anymore with how life is treating you. 

You are stronger than what you think in the end but that isn't true for everyone.

Not everyone is so lucky. 

There's always someone worse off than yourself.

In most ways for some of us, it's more helpful for us to help others in similar situations rather than get help ourselves but then there is only so so much we can cope with alone as well. 

Writing lines. 

Be quiet mind stop saying the same thing all the time so I am writing lines. 

You are driving me round the bent but you are not letting me drive people round the bend.

I can hear you talk to my mind but I am not nuts, crackers, or crazy.

It's not me it's you mind.

I am not imagining it either.

You just won't shut up will you mind? 

How do we deal with things?

Not everything works for everyone.

My advice is to try writing like I said not everything works for everyone but for me it was time.

I drove everyone in my life mad by saying the same thing that was bothering me all the while. 

I felt so guilty about it all the while.

I tied writing poetry, which I enjoy so carried on whether it was helping me or not but in time it did very slowly and it took years.

Career advice in the field of people with disabilities and or other problems

This is not intentionally an advertisement I don't normally advertise but the Coranvirus lockdown affects us all one way or another but there are lots of vuanble people needing help all ages, one way or another with its care, household skills,  shopping, money, cooking, employment, education, hobbies, interests, IT, internet, making friends, etc. This may be one of those, some, all, or things that I haven't listed. 

If you are a  University student or student, trainees elsewhere studying learning disability or and mental health nursing, paramedics, social work, etc. This could even benefit you even if you are qulifcated and trained and maybe the lockdown has changed how you work etc.

Many services, etc that normally support people with disabilities and other problems cannot see these people face to face, most opportunities may be online but they may be needing more people like yourselves to help but not to say everything is for everybody or and it may not be a long term goal for most of you. 

https://www.actionforchildren.org.uk/support-us/volunteer-with-us/

https://www.bhamcommunity.nhs.uk/about-us/get-involved/volunteering/

https://www.nspcc.org.uk/support-us/volunteering-nspcc-childline/

https://www.refugeecouncil.org.uk/get-involved/volunteer-for-us/

 https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/about-us/support-us/volunteering/volunteer-with-our-witness-service/

https://midlandmencap.org.uk/volunteers/

https://www.disability.co.uk/employment-training-and-volunteering-opportunities/

https://disabilitysolutions.org.uk/volunteering/

https://www.guildofstudents.com/volunteering/providers/

http://sps.tmpwcomms.net/scope-volunteers/

https://newlifecharity.co.uk/local/county.php?id=7

https://www.staffordshireconnects.info/kb5/staffordshire/directory/results.page?localofferchannel=6-3

https://www.circles-uk.org.uk/index.php?id=48

https://uk.jobrapido.com/disabled-support-jobs?r=auto&utm_source=adwords&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=1558421255&utm_agid=59478828152&utm_kwid=aud-919212084172:kwd-436589802710&ext=&int=&phy=9045444&mt=b&dev=c&net

Mental health awareness in poetry

 I know digging the past is really a wrong thing to do but something it connects with what you are doing. In this case, I am updating the past to create the future. Sorry to go on about mental health but in this strange time at the moment with the lockdown, I do have a lot of concerns that a lot of people may be suffering in slents. 

I have already said on this website that when I was in my late twenties I had an emotional breakdown, twenty - three years ago over a mental abuse relationship, only I never realize I what was going through at the time and I had no idea I could get help for it. Someone suggested counseling but I thought of the time I was beyond help. As time went I went to see a counselor at the college I was studying at. It was amazing I got through studies regardless of what I was going through then as time went on I was inspired by poetry in the college library and wrote my own. I came across John Keat's work, it seemed his work he was facing similar situations too but naturally, we were in different generals to one another.

I have slightly changed the wording in my poems but mostly pretty much on the minds was at the time more so than today. 

Keeping strong is hard.

Any advice right or wrong is hard to take when your mind is in such a state.

Your mind just will not shut up talking to you about the things are both you.

It is hard to focus on other things.

Every day and night is hard to get through because you just cannot think of anything else other than what is bothering you.

Never say suicide is selfish but no one is wanting to end their lives, they just want to end their pain or and what is bothering them.

Never say if someone says they feel like ending their life, no you do not or else you would have done by now.

They do not know themselves, it’s just how they feel.

If you have concerns that they might, contact someone who or somewhere who and where is trained to help.

You did not want to know.

I tried to see it your way, but you did not see it mine.

You had no intentions of wanting me unless I was getting with my life or and if I was seeing someone else.

It took me long enough to realize we were getting nowhere, years later I trained myself to get out of your life even though I still loved you until I loved you no more. 

My life without you.

My life without you is now great but it took me years realize that you were  a long-term habit to break but thankfully you were not there forever.

 

Why was I hoping?

Why was I bothering?

Why was I wasting my time?

In the end, I walked away.

Now you are long forgotten.

I feel this way no more.

Now I realize that I only dreamt I loved you, I must have been out of my mind.

No idea why I loved to start with, now I love someone else ten times more than I loved you.

Whatever happens, will be. 

Do not ask me for anything.

Just stay put.

Do not think about what you do and do not want.

I have known you long enough.

Do not be or shocked whatever happens.

I needed to get out of his life before it was too late.

It was time to break the long – term habit.

I was wasting my time staying where I was not wanted.

It is not easy, but I knew you have been there before.

 I knew I must be strong. 

 

 

 Love poem.

 

To love little to love strong.

To love strong to love long.

For love too hot to burn is for love to end.

Burn my poems and letters about you on top of me in my grave.

You knew I was writing about you, so you knew how I felt about so ungrateful of you to be angry with me for writing about you.

Sorry I wrote I couldn’t find any other way to accept that you did not love me no more but thinking about it, you never loved me at all.

To not to love beauty, beauty turns to the waist.

If I love in youth forever love should live and goes on, not.

Love is the loveliest feeling for you and me that was.

To touch was to love you.

When the weather is cold, love will keep warm.

Love is for you and me, never you to leave me nor me to leave you. 

Your sweet red lips are like a wild red rose.

Teardrops ran down my eyes to my clothes.

When I walked outside the moon shined.

Tears running down my face as I wept all the time.  

I tried to be brave enough to hold back tears.

Time to hide those feelings because everyone thought I was mad feeling the way I felt about you.

Who can blame them if only I never did feel about you this way?

Now the past is past.

Old fool me for having build my hopes of not been left for another but I am not the first and I will not be the last.

Think do not talk.

I was not saying you were wrong but in the mind, I was in at the time it was easy said than done to take your advice, now I realize a lot of you were right.

At the time I felt like hanging myself to the wall.

I was struggling to move on.

Like everywhere I was lovers were hand in hand.

It felt almost as if they were laughing at me.

There I thought say no more.

I felt I could not win whether I said anything or not.

He himself said I would someone better than him, at the time I thought no way.

Now I bet he wishes he never said what he said because now I am well over him.

Therefore, as time went on, I said nothing at all.

I admit at the time the truth hurt but the feelings were too strong.

Past is past but now I am well over him out of my life.

Putting on a brave face.

I stood aside not saying anything, keeping my thoughts to myself.

No one knew what was going on inside my head.

No one could hear the voices in my head other than me.

I felt like banging my head against a brick wall.

When I think about it now, it just seems like a nightmare that I had.

Everyday it seemed everyone thought I was mad and never thought it was going to end.

It seemed as if everything I did and said was wrong.

I so never thought I would get used to being without you.

Every 

the time I saw you know you did not feel the same way for me anymore was hard to accept but now you sure history.

I never thought I would feel for anyone else as I do now.

Now your loss that you lost out on my love.

At the time I was putting a brave face on by making out I had got over him at the time, but I hadn’t.

 

   

Treating stress, Aniexty disabilities or and other problems

 Like many things really, everyone is a learner and a teacher's in mental health, the reason for this is because of everyone's different strengths, weaknesses, capabilities, etc, no one can do everything they can do things. Before helping others it is important to try and help yourself and look after your own mental health the best you can before helping others. However' that doesn't stop you from helping others in areas you cannot help in only that you don't but what you do help suggest others to others who can, which not be a certain person as such but say charities, services, website links, etc. Never do anything you cannot do, which may be a risk to the person's safety. 

I have only a few posts, you don't need to be a trained professional to ofter to be there for someone in a basic way, just be listening but if you are concerned for the person's safety and you don't feel you cannot help them find someone or somewhere that can.

We must remember not the same things work for everyone. Never tell a person to do and not to do things but suggesting things is fine and it's up to them whether not they go along with it. Even if they don't go along with what you suggest don't amuse they aren't doing anything, they may bring on their own ideas.  They do have choices to do what they want to do. Just to say your job is to empower not run their lives. 

 However' if they are not doing anything at all in the time period your support them etc, I do agree, if you really are not doing anything to help it's not worth giving whatever time period you are allow to give them but look into these things first don't amuse they are. This may depend if they are telling you what are doing or and showing any proof.  However'  to balance this, please consider that mental health, etc can take a lot out of people or and slow their conference, engry motivation, etc out of a person.

This could mean many things, like hobbies, interests, arts, crafts, careers, improving their diet, drinking less alcohol, cutting down caffeine, exercise, relaxation, etc, which is down to them to do and suggest to do themselves and there could be things that they want to do what I haven't written down. https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/improve-mental-wellbeing/

What is stress?

 Really stress is a weight on everyone's mind one way or the other and in different ways because not everyone's life is the same, families, jobs,  studies, money, etc. Stress isn't a new thing, it has always been there but if it increases to a point that a person is rather struggling to manage their lives it can be linked to mental health, which is Anxiety and even Depression could come in as well. Is it serious or not? That can be a yes and a no answer, meaning yes if the person doesn't any support or the right support to manage it. No, if it is managed as a whole but this can vary and depend on a lot of the things, the person's health, etc and the situation they may be facing. 

Take for example a person with a disability who doesn't have any support.  They are struggling to cope and they are struggling to find support, that can be a huge problem for them if they can't get help to deal with it and on top of that, there's a risk it can increase their mental health. This could make them stressed, anxious, and even depressed, without making things even worse not knowing what could happen next but doesn't necessarily mean it will come to an end but really it needs to be sorted just in case. 

 Only once upon a time, we use to get on with every day mostly without thinking about it and with very little or no help at all. Really still not a lot of it has changed only that we are aware of it. I know it makes no sense but there is more help than there used to be but there isn't. Very often now if there are reasons why there may be no help, it's mostly down to funding, etc.   Whereas going back over 20 years ago or more no one really understood stress but then they were aware they were facing it, which makes no sense really.

 Over years lifestyles have changed, parents were mostly married, single parents were very rare, although I was one of the very few children born from a single parent, which wasn't hard for me naturally my Mum it was, only that I was curious of about my Dad, which is a personal situation I had to learn how to live. However' although to be fair a lot of adults were at work etc back then including my Mum, which my Grandmother, Aunty, etc would look after me.

 People were more stressed and tried because they had been working all day and because I was a kid back then I didn't understand, don't think I can now be honest but I think they were still struggling money-wise, etc. 

Whereas these days there is a lack of employment etc causing people to struggle but then somehow money seems to just about strength years ago, but people still struggled.

 There again there was less IT, well none at all really and we were aware of less crime, etc. Yet we were so much happier but then we weren't which is hard to understand. Think the answer is that there was very little help out, really we didn't know what help was so we just got on with life somehow, whereas today, it's a cry for help if we cannot get the help we need. That doesn't mean though that we should go back to where we used to be and admit there is no real answer to that. 

Stress is something we all face because there's always something we need to deal with even if it's very small but also it isn't always a necessary experience, even possible experiences can be a challenge to cope with. However' not everything but most things can be hard, too much to cope with, etc, and even a health risk in different ways if things really get on top of people. Stress can be very serious if people take on too much in life but strangely be well worth it in many possible experiences.

However' with the Coronavirus lockdown stress is increasing a lot one way or another. With most people not able to travel at all to work etc at all or as much this becomes a huge change in people's lives many are not used to whether they face disabilities, other problems or not. For those who worked a lot, this change may make a huge difference to pay, work, businesses, etc to help themselves, families, etc. Even, most people who haven't been on benefits now may have no choice to go them now because either work, business, etc isn't paying what it was or and even worse they may have lost work, business, etc, which is a huge worry and  I guess a lot of stress on them. Another risk could be also a huge risk to their mental health if they haven't faced before, they may do now or in the future but not saying will in everyone's case, in fact of this could be a guess but just an awareness of what could be happening.  

 That alone is enough but if you face disabilities, mental health other problems, etc, that is extra meaning even the smallest things a person could be more sensitive by. In a lot of cases, stress is added on to Anxiety because most people find their mind hard to stop thinking and worrying, but then that can happen as much anyone if they do have important things to worry about but even the smallest easiest things to others can feel a lot worse for people who disabilities, mental health and or other problems, mainly one is Anxiety. Without having to repeat me without being ungrateful to those who want to help, because whatever it may be possibly seems worse to them than what it may be to you. Saying things like don't worry etc is easy to say but not easy for the person to do, which why for most people it's earlier to break the problem down bit by bit, slowly treat it as a serious problem even though it might not be, and help them to deal with it.   In some areas, the person may know they will live with the situation but the fear is just too much for them but it may be something they cannot get out of for whatever reason so they need some support or should I say empowerment how to deal with it, It might be something fearful but it may be something for their own good. 

For example;  I am feeling Anxious about having breast screening because I have never had one before. It is playing on my mind but I know it is for my own good, however, having to accept that as a small situation is it seems like a big deal to me and it shouldn't be but even though I know that I find it hard to feel I can go along with it no problem. However' once that appointment has happened it's likely I am going be feeling less Anxious and maybe I may not feel as bad for the next time I will have to go through, cause I will know I will have to be scanned ever so often now I am over fifty. 

More on Aniexty

 Generalized Anxiety Disorder is known as ( GAD)  can be hard to diagnose, guess this is because it probley is considered to be around all areas of life. Panic attacks for example could be chest pains, stomach pains, hot and cold sensations, dizziness, light-headed, fainting, fear of dying, dread, feeling of choking, fear of going mad, crazy, etc, stressed, short of breath, sweating, trembling, shaking. Just because someone may not face all of those doesn't necessarily mean they don't face Anxiety.  On this link I am putting on here is how it can be treated but everyone is different, meaning what people face what treatment does and doesn't work for them could vary. https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-a-panic-attack-2584403 All these signs can go into panic attacks and social anxiety as well. 

Other mental health issues you could may learn about. https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/borderline-personality-disorder/symptoms/

https://www.verywellmind.com/a-list-of-psychological-disorders-2794776

https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/ServicesAndSupport/types-of-mental-health-issues-and-illnesses

Understanding the difference between sigma, Prejudice disacrimation and judgement.

 If I am honest I cannot understand the difference between, sigma, prejudice discrimination and judgement they all seem similar if not the same to me. However' I guess it is when people don't treat equally to everyone else because of disabilities, mental health,, colour, someone who may be against someone's beliefs etc for example. Here are some examples; which is which I don't know.

This could be examples of Sigma in mental health. 

You're making a mountain out of a molehill. your crazy, you're mad, you're off your rocker. Your overreacting, you're out of your mind, don't worry about it, these can easily get misunderstood. Attitudes, behaviours, how staff, managers are towards people with disabilities, mental health etc in work, study, etc.  https://www.camh.ca/en/health-info/guides-and-publications/stigma

These issues really need to be aware of and treated before it gets to a stage where people's state of minds get more severe and we should be able to support people without facing them with Sigma. However' sadly being in the early stages is not always possible in everyone. It is not in everyone's case I might be wrong and this is hard to word without upsetting others, all same this is a hard one to balance. This gives no excuse because it's a huge effect on families, friends, etc but getting to the point many say some crimes etc happen by those who face major mental health issues but I guess that may not be always the case. Like I said in one of my posts those who may want to take your career into mental health further etc, psychology is another you may want to get into. 

https://www.time-to-change.org.uk/about-us/our-campaigns/challenging-stigma-young-people/impact-judgement

https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/sites/default/files/actions_speak__louder_0.pdf

Other examples, people not been treated fairly, not being accepted because of having disabilities, mental health etc, not having the right tools, support etc to one's needs, https://www.verywellmind.com/mental-illness-and-stigma-2337677

https://www.nhsinform.scot/illnesses-and-conditions/mental-health

What is Aniexty?

 Like everything, mental health issues Anxiety is a feeling but everything mental health issues is a different feeling. Anxiety is a feeling of anger, not necessarily a way of getting mad with people but a feeling of worry,  stress, fear, a sense of dread, and panic. Most people face dizziness, tiredness mainly if they have struggled to sleep if they have struggled to rest from whatever may be playing on their minds, shaking, trembling, dry mouth, short of breath, stomach ace, feeling sick, headaches, needles, and pins, etc.  With needles and pin, shaking, etc, if they have epilepsy or and even a history of it, it may be easy to get confused with Epilepsy and Anxiety but in some cases, it may be both. I am no professional but maybe things like ECGs can monter those conditions. It's possible to even some people may be facing non-epilespy seizures, which is another thing that can happen to some people if they get too stressed. 

 With most people when something is on the mind such as say an exam, hospital appointment, etc, it doesn't leave them alone in the mind until it's done, even then it may depends on what happens afterward. Over the years some people may learn to manage it by trying not to talk to others about it all the while but doesn't me it's left their mind alone. It's possible risks, it can spoil relationships with others depending on the people they communicate with because it can be too easy for them to keep talking about it because they are so worried, which is what I face myself. To be honest a one point I thought was me going mad but since I have spoken to a fair few people who have faced the same themselves so sounds as if I am not alone on this one. 

Remember what I said in I think not my last post but the one before about something that may seem small to you seems big to them, which most people would say the person is making a mountain out of a molehill. Thinking about it, it may be my last post. Like I said never say you are making a mountain of mole. Naturally, you are concerned about how whatever it may be is affecting the person. Try going through the situation slowly with the person by trying to break it down to be less stressful to them, for people this may help, others may not. For those who it may not maybe try finding out from the person themselves what's likely to help them or and if you have any huge concerns, mainly it's safety concern make your manage aware but also the person needs to be aware themselves and why, which should be a good reason if it's a safety concern.

 Even I would say myself from having been a patient and client, you can only do your best, take care of your own safety as well as theirs, you shouldn't have to put up with any abuse, etc, which is less likely happen nine times out ten but report to your manager, bring in the police, etc if you need and have to. I will admit that there are major mental health issues that can have a huge effect on a person's behavior and yes they can be feeling severely anxious but all the same that doesn't mean that your safety doesn't matter either. Many people who face it themselves even when being in a calm state of mind you would say the same whatever mental health issues they face. I will admit, some things in life can make me feel so anxious, it can be severe but others not quite as bad. 

However' it can be dangerous to the person's self if it affects people in a big way, leading to things like heart attack, etc if the person's worrying levels are very severe. At that stage or even beforehand maybe suggest things like exercise, relaxation, yoga, therapy, etc, depending on the person, etc, also even diet advice. 

 https://www.nhsinform.scot/illnesses-and-conditions/mental-health/anxiety#introduction

About Depression.

 Before I go on, just to let you all know without focusing you do what you don't want to do or and cannot do. It seems with the Coranvirus lockdown that mental health charities, services, etc are needing support to fund as there is a huge increase of people facing mental health, etc.  I myself had a letter from Mind today but I cannot affront to support them so I can understand who cannot but I can understand how concerning the increase of mental health is as I face it myself. It's only writing my lectures, poetry, teaching sessions on PowerPoint, etc keeps me sane but not everything helps everyone.

Not sure if it is true or not but in any case I posted a report on Facebook about a week ago, saying since the Coranvirus lockdown numbers of people asking for help have risen from 80'298 to 232'271 people, which is hugely concerning. 

Depression 

In my view, depression is a feeling of sadness whether there is a reason or not. It may well start off mild then increase, it may even happen on and off.  No one knows why this happens. Many would say that having nothing going or too much in one's life but who knows? 

Depression is not an easy subject to talk about as different people see it in different ways. All mental health issues are emotional well-being affects how we think, feel, and behave. This can also make a lot of us more sensitive than those who don't face it. 

If feeling low lasts a long time it can be a huge concern, it can affect everyday lives for example; like making one feeling hopeless, guilty, worthless, not up to doing things, or cannot seem to stop doing things to try and keep themselves at ease, within some cases not realizing, most people could even face it both ways at different times which I tend to face myself. 

When the depression is mild you can just about lead a normal life but if it increases it can be a huge concern, not say everyone but for most people, it gets to the stage one feels as if life is not worth living. This can be one of the reasons why it can be a sensitive subject to most where it can be concerning despite all the services and charities there are now compared to many years ago, where there could be still a lot of people worry to ask for help and another reason could be to most they feel as they are putting a lot on other people, which we can do anything about because we don't know for sure.  https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/postnatal-depression-and-perinatal-mental-health/about-maternal-mental-health-problems/

( SAD) Season Affected Disorder.

With ( SAD)  you don't need something your mind to bother you to for you to face ( SAD), don't me wrong this is not saying everyone is sad. The winter months are emotional well - beings on their own with grey dull skies, needing to put your lights on at home at around 3.00pm, etc. 

On top of this people are at home even more so now due to the Coronavirus lockdown, which increasing mental health more as much as staying at home is to protect people from the Virus.

As dark as it sounds the government is trying to save lives as much as possible from the Coronavirus, which is not wrong but there are huge concerns about lost lives from Mental health, which is impossible to save lives from both. However' the government needs to put more funding etc into mental health charities and services.

 As right as it is to protect people from Convirus, many people are facing loneliness not everyone knows how to use IT, Internet, etc, even they know how to use phones, some people cannot even affront a phone despite how much IT there is today and if they can't afford a phone, they can't afford a laptop and pc either, even though there's a wide amount of us who can. 

To most people, the lockdown rules are not clear to understand therefore people possibly only go out to shop for food, etc because they may be the scar of breaking rules because they don't understand them.

The support for vulnerable people could be now limited because of social distancing. 

People having to get used to learning to work and study online instead of having to travel to work, okay some workplaces are open and others are not.

Don't get me wrong in many ways it's probably good to learn new ways but can be harder for some people to learn than others, some may find it harder without face-to-face learning and support. 

Xmas time most people may struggle etc if they aren't able to see their families. 

Things people may face around  ( SAD) lack of energy, lack of concentration, not wanting to see people, loneliness, sleeping problems, waking up problems, staying asleep; feeling sad, tearful, guilty, hopeless, low, eating less, or more, prone to colds, illnesses, and more such as suicidal thoughts, etc.https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/seasonal-affective-disorder-sad/about-sad/

Supporting people.

You don't need to be a trained health professional to try and find out how someone is. 

As the old saying goes there's always someone worse off than yourself. Okay, IT, the internet has grown in the last year but not to say I am right but I don't take it for grandit that everyone is on the IT and internet. Some people may not know to access, use it, worry for their safety, etc and even harder they may find it hard to use or and afford a phone as crazy as it may sound this day and age. Some people may be vulnerable and others may overprotect them from the interest, IT, etc. I know it can be costly but you don't need to do it very often maybe once a month or once every 6 months or something even a letter to that someone you know etc if it's not affordable for them to write back to you may send them a sample addressed eleplove to write back to you. I know that sounds cheeky but at least it's away to find out how they are feeling, copying, etc, and to show you care if you have no other way of getting in touch with them and if you have their address of course. 

 

Never Judge a book by it's cover.

This is a hard one to write about but a very important awareness.  As human beings we are all so different, it would be a boring world if we were all the same. I am all for being as caring as I possibly can be but every human mind is so different. Nevertheless, never judge a book by its cover. No deservices judgment, Sigma, or discrimination. However' your time and everything matters and if you work in the form of privacy, etc in support of people, etc, you matter as well as the client, patience, etc, which is not an easy one to balance.  

Your duty is to put yourself in someone's shoes, meaning thinking how you would want things if you were in their situation whatever it may be. Whether it's one to one sessions or not you have a duty to respect the person's privacy but raise and concerns if needs be only to the manager or anyone else in that role in the workplace. At the same time, your safety matters too and the person needs to respect that, which sadly but in most cases rarely happens. 

It's unlikely mainly with people facing mental health you will come across anyone wasting your time but never says never. When I say this I don't mean people with disabilities, mental health, etc. Sorry I find this hard to explain, this is going to sound harsh but it true but probably rarely that there are people out there who try to fake the system because they may not want to work, etc. Either that can be hard to prove etc either way. This is one of the reasons why data protective, IDs, etc are in place. 

 Never be a judge the person, never cause them sigma, or discriminate them which is fair enough but you know what, they shouldn't do that to you either. They need to respect you by keeping, turning up for appointments, etc, and contacting you and letting you know, etc if they cannot make them, etc. 

If a person says they are feeling down, sad, etc without a reason, never say for example; what you doing here for? Never say, there's nothing the matter with you.

Never say, if someone is saying they are anxious a lot with worry, never say don't worry or don't you think you are over worrying? This can be the same as thinking as well. Another thing they could be dealing with something that seems really small to you but huge to them.

 Never say don't you think you are overreacting or and making a mountain out of a molehill. Instead, try to suggest ways step by step but the choice is theirs whether or not they want to go along with it. If that not good enough for them suggest other things.

 However' you get only give so many suggestions etc;  depending on the person's situation, etc there may be a point where you may need to empower and say what are you going to do?

 If they are struggling to decide, this may be an issue depending on what's happening you may need to raise with your manager.

 However' if the person does come up with an answer you cannot say tell them whether it's a good or bad idea of theirs but you can tell them what's likely to happen if they do what they say they are going to do.https://www.seemescotland.org/stigma-discrimination/experiencing-stigma-and-discrimination-and-how-to-challenge-it/

Never say things like, it's all in your head, you are imaging this, you are exaggerating, or don't you think you are exaggerating?  Treat the mild problems as a serious problem because with people with Anxiety any problem feels and seems like a serious problem to them. However' many people can find it hard to know work out etc how bad a problem maybe it eases Aniexty mostly if it's sorted to be more serious than it is by dealing with it step by step with the person. If you both struggling maybe consider it as a safety concern that could be raised with the manager etc where they may be able to suggest things etc.

Never tell anything about the client, patient's information, etc outside the workplace.

Awareness of learning disability and mental health during in the lockdown.

 Learning disability and mental health has always been a struggle but with the coronavirus, lockdown is even more of a struggle as Social distance may limit their support, however, it may or may not be the case in everyone and everything but the possibility of what people may be facing needs to be aware of. The fact that their support may be limited may increase also their mental health.

 For example; household skills, cook shopping, money, personal care, careers, socializing, etc. https://howrightnow.org/. They may even struggle to cope with things changing or and stopping in their lives such as studying and working online, making and contacting friends, family, etc. Bear in mind, we know this is a probley hard to help these people but there may be some people who may struggle to access IT and the internet at all. The less support they may be getting the more so their mental health may be at risk but this may depend on their support network if they have any. Even some are not depending on such service as social services etc, they may be having no choice to but depending on the family but that doesn't necessarily mean there are enough people in the family to cope with the needs of the person, depending on what those needs are how much support they are needing, this is where risks of Anxiety and Depression levels may increase.

For those who may be facing these situations no one is forcing help onto you but just to let you know, we know it's not easy and we will admit that help is limited and it is easy to not say anything, know it's easy for me to say but yes I have been there myself. There is some help about and we cannot promise whether or not it will work for you but it's not known unless you ask.  Don't feel you can't say anything because of your feelings and voice matters. https://www.supportline.org.uk/problems/mental-health/

https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/learning-disability-support/for-people-with-learning-disabilities/

Does the level fuction Autism mesure up to the level of Aniexty?

 Most people who are on the Autism Spectrum can face high levels of Aniexies through everyday lives, which causes them stress, which is not an intentional thing only that even in the same ways people have to face in life, they are just more sensitive to situations, etc compared to other people. For example; this could mean route, being taken out of their own comfort zone, getting used to new ways of doing things, etc.

 For example; the lockdown and not been able to go to their workplace, working online if they work, needing someone to support them, and teach them the new way compared to the way they are used. They may become alarmed by sudden surprises, without anyone making them aware or and preparing them. To how sensitive they are this can cause them to panic and stress even though no one means to cause them that, which can affect most people emotionally and increase Anxiety levels.

 This gets them misunderstood to being someone they are not or and someone they don't want to be. Most people may think they want to be the center of attention, the most important person in the work, selfish, etc, which not the case. We must remember that Autism is an unawareness of the world around the person unless they are told they may have hurt someone's feelings for eg; they don't realize that. In some areas, if not all they may take a while to realize but once they realize they are very sorry. 

 In fact, there can be situations where they worry for example whether or not they have upset someone or not, that plays on their minds, stresses them out, etc until someone makes them aware if they get told they have they feel bad about it. This may cause them to overreact, over think, something may seem to them worse than what it really may be, etc Just because they face these problems, yes they like them to be aware of understanding, etc but also not to be treated or misunderstood for people to think they shouldn't be treated any differently to anyone else would be. 

Most people with ASD can be hypersensitive, sensitive to sounds, taste, touch, feel, etc, not everyone is sensitive to all of them, this can vary from person to person, some it can be one thing,  others a few, and others all. 

I am trying to research to find out whether not how high the levels of Anxiety a person faces depends on the function level of Autism someone has or not. According to what I have read most people can sensitive to social situations, where they may avoid communicating with people as much as possible because may worry they may say or something wrong in the mind of others righty or wrongly, mainly the more they become aware they may cross misunderstanding with people without meaning to but this is not necessary they can everyone. However' there are ways and means of working around this such as confidence, social skills, etc. Not saying they don't get on with those without Autism but they are pretty much likely to be on the same wave as others who may face Autism. https://www.anxiety.org/autism-spectrum-disorder-anxiety-strategies

Difference between Dyslexica and Dyspraxia

 On both Dyslexia and Dyspraxia, there are differences but there are ways they are the same too, which makes it hard to know whether it's possible to have both or and one or the other. Yer' confusing I know but just going from my own experience but then I am as confused anyone who is. Sorry to say there's no easy way of saying this without confusing the issues because a lot of these special needs difficulties have ways that are the same as one another and other ways different. I think I could say Dyslexia and Dyspraxia is two of them. This part of my life was and maybe to a point still is, which is.

Never think a person cannot speak, Spell, sound, read, write, etc; they just have difficulties along the way.  However' yes there are people who cannot speak, sound, Spell, read and write, which may not be all of them, some, one or the other or all but that doesn't make them thick, stupid, etc, they know what's going on around them as much as anyone, they just may struggle to communicate. However' all this can vary from person to person and even some people who just have difficulties along the way can face as much difficulty as those who cannot read, write and speak at all, you may come across more cases like this more so but maybe not as I said it can vary from person to person.

Dyspraxia can affect all areas of life, physically and mentally, motor, skills, coloration, and grip. Difficulties in cooking, cleaning, changing light bulbs, climbing, etc to education difficulties I have just written about whereas Dyslexia has just the mental difficulties. However' a person with Dyslexia may have some physical difficulties like finding it hard to not press too hard to the paper with their pencils, which is more so education tools but this can be an extra difficulty for people with Dyspraxia too. Many researchers have said on the internet that motor skills, etc can apply to Autism and Dyslexia as well as Dyspraxia and maybe more.  https://youtu.be/zLkCWT2neuI?fbclid=IwAR1lmaQtyHtMOvnYwaPHShnCqUW4mDojCRetPjO_Us8DnI7wINYuw01m4_E

https://studyingwithdyslexiablog.co.uk/blog//2015/12/the-3-ds-what-is-difference-between.html