Empowerment in mental health in poetry.

 We are here for you.

No one is going to force you to talk to us.

No one is forcing you to be quiet either.

We don't want to think of you struggling alone and afraid to ask for help if you feel you want to or and need it. 

We understand trusting people is a very hard thing and when you don't us, it's understandable you don't want to tell anyone anything. 

There is no easy way of saying this and I am with you all the way.

You may think what is she doing typing random things, she knows nothing about me?

Yes, your right but I may not know how you are feeling but I know I have faced mental health issues myself and I know that doesn't make me know everything.

All the same, you don't need to have to cope and alone and struggle, you are not forced to do anything you don't want to do either and I am not saying I am the person to help necessary but plenty of other people, services, charities, etc ofter to too.  

When I had a break down twenty - three years ago I had no idea there was such thing as counselling till someone said when I was at college, there's a counsellor in the college.

My reaction was no, they may think I am crazy, mad etc.

No, they won't they are just trying to help, just suggesting things that's all.

For however long, I thought no way, in time it seemed to me as I feeling I wasn't going to get any better and I thought I will try and I can easily walk away if I don't like it.

Then I was so glad I tried, then unexcepted to me and the councillor even I found myself writing poetry and things were starting to improve slowly. 

However' this is just an example not everything helps for everyone but it might be something different than it was for me. 

People used to say to me time is a good healer, which I never believed at first but then became true even though it took me years to feel myself again but it may some sooner and others longer. 

I never took medication. 

Not saying it was the right or wrong thing to do.

Not saying anyone else should or shouldn't take medication.

I was once advised when I was feeling really down in myself but I decided not to because I feared it may have made worse or and I would end up getting too used to taking them.

I admit I am not pleased with myself that I drank heavily for about twelve months when I had my break down but soon as I was getting counselling and I was writing my poetry I started to cut the drink down a bit. 

I don't believe in judging anyone because I have been there myself.

Never directly tell someone to give up drinking, smoking etc, suggest it if people are going to give them up they will give them up in their own time but supporting them along the way is fine. 

Hidden emotions but nothing is lie.

Just to say that these poems aren't about me personally but how life is generally one way or another for everyone with this lockdown going on.

 When most people think of mental health, they think people who face it always being sad, moody, and showing it all the while this is not the case and they are not trying to hide anything either or lie to anyone. If we showed how we really feel about life in work, study, etc, chances are likely no one would want to be in our company even though they may have known what we are facing in. Besides, there is more to the person other than what they face and the way that they react to how life treats them, etc.

Most people may imagine people being hard to work with, those facing mental health, even disability issues, and other problems when for a lot of people feel things are not good in life when not working, studying, or doing something. Over the years I have found myself doing things to keep myself busy even if no one else has. For example; my work with the university when that is going but when it's not it is down to me to keep myself going but that is not in everyone. 

Even a lot of famous people face mental health and on the whole, they spend a lot of time working, etc. Even comics, comedians, etc face depression and other mental health issues. people who you may think that wouldn't.  http://www.mentalhealthministries.net/resources/flyers/famous_people/famouspeople.pdf

Strong to get by. 

Just when you think you cannot cope anymore with how life is treating you. 

You are stronger than what you think in the end but that isn't true for everyone.

Not everyone is so lucky. 

There's always someone worse off than yourself.

In most ways for some of us, it's more helpful for us to help others in similar situations rather than get help ourselves but then there is only so so much we can cope with alone as well. 

Writing lines. 

Be quiet mind stop saying the same thing all the time so I am writing lines. 

You are driving me round the bent but you are not letting me drive people round the bend.

I can hear you talk to my mind but I am not nuts, crackers, or crazy.

It's not me it's you mind.

I am not imagining it either.

You just won't shut up will you mind? 

How do we deal with things?

Not everything works for everyone.

My advice is to try writing like I said not everything works for everyone but for me it was time.

I drove everyone in my life mad by saying the same thing that was bothering me all the while. 

I felt so guilty about it all the while.

I tied writing poetry, which I enjoy so carried on whether it was helping me or not but in time it did very slowly and it took years.

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Mental health awareness in poetry

 I know digging the past is really a wrong thing to do but something it connects with what you are doing. In this case, I am updating the past to create the future. Sorry to go on about mental health but in this strange time at the moment with the lockdown, I do have a lot of concerns that a lot of people may be suffering in slents. 

I have already said on this website that when I was in my late twenties I had an emotional breakdown, twenty - three years ago over a mental abuse relationship, only I never realize I what was going through at the time and I had no idea I could get help for it. Someone suggested counseling but I thought of the time I was beyond help. As time went I went to see a counselor at the college I was studying at. It was amazing I got through studies regardless of what I was going through then as time went on I was inspired by poetry in the college library and wrote my own. I came across John Keat's work, it seemed his work he was facing similar situations too but naturally, we were in different generals to one another.

I have slightly changed the wording in my poems but mostly pretty much on the minds was at the time more so than today. 

Keeping strong is hard.

Any advice right or wrong is hard to take when your mind is in such a state.

Your mind just will not shut up talking to you about the things are both you.

It is hard to focus on other things.

Every day and night is hard to get through because you just cannot think of anything else other than what is bothering you.

Never say suicide is selfish but no one is wanting to end their lives, they just want to end their pain or and what is bothering them.

Never say if someone says they feel like ending their life, no you do not or else you would have done by now.

They do not know themselves, it’s just how they feel.

If you have concerns that they might, contact someone who or somewhere who and where is trained to help.

You did not want to know.

I tried to see it your way, but you did not see it mine.

You had no intentions of wanting me unless I was getting with my life or and if I was seeing someone else.

It took me long enough to realize we were getting nowhere, years later I trained myself to get out of your life even though I still loved you until I loved you no more. 

My life without you.

My life without you is now great but it took me years realize that you were  a long-term habit to break but thankfully you were not there forever.

 

Why was I hoping?

Why was I bothering?

Why was I wasting my time?

In the end, I walked away.

Now you are long forgotten.

I feel this way no more.

Now I realize that I only dreamt I loved you, I must have been out of my mind.

No idea why I loved to start with, now I love someone else ten times more than I loved you.

Whatever happens, will be. 

Do not ask me for anything.

Just stay put.

Do not think about what you do and do not want.

I have known you long enough.

Do not be or shocked whatever happens.

I needed to get out of his life before it was too late.

It was time to break the long – term habit.

I was wasting my time staying where I was not wanted.

It is not easy, but I knew you have been there before.

 I knew I must be strong. 

 

 

 Love poem.

 

To love little to love strong.

To love strong to love long.

For love too hot to burn is for love to end.

Burn my poems and letters about you on top of me in my grave.

You knew I was writing about you, so you knew how I felt about so ungrateful of you to be angry with me for writing about you.

Sorry I wrote I couldn’t find any other way to accept that you did not love me no more but thinking about it, you never loved me at all.

To not to love beauty, beauty turns to the waist.

If I love in youth forever love should live and goes on, not.

Love is the loveliest feeling for you and me that was.

To touch was to love you.

When the weather is cold, love will keep warm.

Love is for you and me, never you to leave me nor me to leave you. 

Your sweet red lips are like a wild red rose.

Teardrops ran down my eyes to my clothes.

When I walked outside the moon shined.

Tears running down my face as I wept all the time.  

I tried to be brave enough to hold back tears.

Time to hide those feelings because everyone thought I was mad feeling the way I felt about you.

Who can blame them if only I never did feel about you this way?

Now the past is past.

Old fool me for having build my hopes of not been left for another but I am not the first and I will not be the last.

Think do not talk.

I was not saying you were wrong but in the mind, I was in at the time it was easy said than done to take your advice, now I realize a lot of you were right.

At the time I felt like hanging myself to the wall.

I was struggling to move on.

Like everywhere I was lovers were hand in hand.

It felt almost as if they were laughing at me.

There I thought say no more.

I felt I could not win whether I said anything or not.

He himself said I would someone better than him, at the time I thought no way.

Now I bet he wishes he never said what he said because now I am well over him.

Therefore, as time went on, I said nothing at all.

I admit at the time the truth hurt but the feelings were too strong.

Past is past but now I am well over him out of my life.

Putting on a brave face.

I stood aside not saying anything, keeping my thoughts to myself.

No one knew what was going on inside my head.

No one could hear the voices in my head other than me.

I felt like banging my head against a brick wall.

When I think about it now, it just seems like a nightmare that I had.

Everyday it seemed everyone thought I was mad and never thought it was going to end.

It seemed as if everything I did and said was wrong.

I so never thought I would get used to being without you.

Every 

the time I saw you know you did not feel the same way for me anymore was hard to accept but now you sure history.

I never thought I would feel for anyone else as I do now.

Now your loss that you lost out on my love.

At the time I was putting a brave face on by making out I had got over him at the time, but I hadn’t.

 

   

Treating stress, Aniexty disabilities or and other problems

 Like many things really, everyone is a learner and a teacher's in mental health, the reason for this is because of everyone's different strengths, weaknesses, capabilities, etc, no one can do everything they can do things. Before helping others it is important to try and help yourself and look after your own mental health the best you can before helping others. However' that doesn't stop you from helping others in areas you cannot help in only that you don't but what you do help suggest others to others who can, which not be a certain person as such but say charities, services, website links, etc. Never do anything you cannot do, which may be a risk to the person's safety. 

I have only a few posts, you don't need to be a trained professional to ofter to be there for someone in a basic way, just be listening but if you are concerned for the person's safety and you don't feel you cannot help them find someone or somewhere that can.

We must remember not the same things work for everyone. Never tell a person to do and not to do things but suggesting things is fine and it's up to them whether not they go along with it. Even if they don't go along with what you suggest don't amuse they aren't doing anything, they may bring on their own ideas.  They do have choices to do what they want to do. Just to say your job is to empower not run their lives. 

 However' if they are not doing anything at all in the time period your support them etc, I do agree, if you really are not doing anything to help it's not worth giving whatever time period you are allow to give them but look into these things first don't amuse they are. This may depend if they are telling you what are doing or and showing any proof.  However'  to balance this, please consider that mental health, etc can take a lot out of people or and slow their conference, engry motivation, etc out of a person.

This could mean many things, like hobbies, interests, arts, crafts, careers, improving their diet, drinking less alcohol, cutting down caffeine, exercise, relaxation, etc, which is down to them to do and suggest to do themselves and there could be things that they want to do what I haven't written down. https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/improve-mental-wellbeing/

What is stress?

 Really stress is a weight on everyone's mind one way or the other and in different ways because not everyone's life is the same, families, jobs,  studies, money, etc. Stress isn't a new thing, it has always been there but if it increases to a point that a person is rather struggling to manage their lives it can be linked to mental health, which is Anxiety and even Depression could come in as well. Is it serious or not? That can be a yes and a no answer, meaning yes if the person doesn't any support or the right support to manage it. No, if it is managed as a whole but this can vary and depend on a lot of the things, the person's health, etc and the situation they may be facing. 

Take for example a person with a disability who doesn't have any support.  They are struggling to cope and they are struggling to find support, that can be a huge problem for them if they can't get help to deal with it and on top of that, there's a risk it can increase their mental health. This could make them stressed, anxious, and even depressed, without making things even worse not knowing what could happen next but doesn't necessarily mean it will come to an end but really it needs to be sorted just in case. 

 Only once upon a time, we use to get on with every day mostly without thinking about it and with very little or no help at all. Really still not a lot of it has changed only that we are aware of it. I know it makes no sense but there is more help than there used to be but there isn't. Very often now if there are reasons why there may be no help, it's mostly down to funding, etc.   Whereas going back over 20 years ago or more no one really understood stress but then they were aware they were facing it, which makes no sense really.

 Over years lifestyles have changed, parents were mostly married, single parents were very rare, although I was one of the very few children born from a single parent, which wasn't hard for me naturally my Mum it was, only that I was curious of about my Dad, which is a personal situation I had to learn how to live. However' although to be fair a lot of adults were at work etc back then including my Mum, which my Grandmother, Aunty, etc would look after me.

 People were more stressed and tried because they had been working all day and because I was a kid back then I didn't understand, don't think I can now be honest but I think they were still struggling money-wise, etc. 

Whereas these days there is a lack of employment etc causing people to struggle but then somehow money seems to just about strength years ago, but people still struggled.

 There again there was less IT, well none at all really and we were aware of less crime, etc. Yet we were so much happier but then we weren't which is hard to understand. Think the answer is that there was very little help out, really we didn't know what help was so we just got on with life somehow, whereas today, it's a cry for help if we cannot get the help we need. That doesn't mean though that we should go back to where we used to be and admit there is no real answer to that. 

Stress is something we all face because there's always something we need to deal with even if it's very small but also it isn't always a necessary experience, even possible experiences can be a challenge to cope with. However' not everything but most things can be hard, too much to cope with, etc, and even a health risk in different ways if things really get on top of people. Stress can be very serious if people take on too much in life but strangely be well worth it in many possible experiences.

However' with the Coronavirus lockdown stress is increasing a lot one way or another. With most people not able to travel at all to work etc at all or as much this becomes a huge change in people's lives many are not used to whether they face disabilities, other problems or not. For those who worked a lot, this change may make a huge difference to pay, work, businesses, etc to help themselves, families, etc. Even, most people who haven't been on benefits now may have no choice to go them now because either work, business, etc isn't paying what it was or and even worse they may have lost work, business, etc, which is a huge worry and  I guess a lot of stress on them. Another risk could be also a huge risk to their mental health if they haven't faced before, they may do now or in the future but not saying will in everyone's case, in fact of this could be a guess but just an awareness of what could be happening.  

 That alone is enough but if you face disabilities, mental health other problems, etc, that is extra meaning even the smallest things a person could be more sensitive by. In a lot of cases, stress is added on to Anxiety because most people find their mind hard to stop thinking and worrying, but then that can happen as much anyone if they do have important things to worry about but even the smallest easiest things to others can feel a lot worse for people who disabilities, mental health and or other problems, mainly one is Anxiety. Without having to repeat me without being ungrateful to those who want to help, because whatever it may be possibly seems worse to them than what it may be to you. Saying things like don't worry etc is easy to say but not easy for the person to do, which why for most people it's earlier to break the problem down bit by bit, slowly treat it as a serious problem even though it might not be, and help them to deal with it.   In some areas, the person may know they will live with the situation but the fear is just too much for them but it may be something they cannot get out of for whatever reason so they need some support or should I say empowerment how to deal with it, It might be something fearful but it may be something for their own good. 

For example;  I am feeling Anxious about having breast screening because I have never had one before. It is playing on my mind but I know it is for my own good, however, having to accept that as a small situation is it seems like a big deal to me and it shouldn't be but even though I know that I find it hard to feel I can go along with it no problem. However' once that appointment has happened it's likely I am going be feeling less Anxious and maybe I may not feel as bad for the next time I will have to go through, cause I will know I will have to be scanned ever so often now I am over fifty. 

More on Aniexty

 Generalized Anxiety Disorder is known as ( GAD)  can be hard to diagnose, guess this is because it probley is considered to be around all areas of life. Panic attacks for example could be chest pains, stomach pains, hot and cold sensations, dizziness, light-headed, fainting, fear of dying, dread, feeling of choking, fear of going mad, crazy, etc, stressed, short of breath, sweating, trembling, shaking. Just because someone may not face all of those doesn't necessarily mean they don't face Anxiety.  On this link I am putting on here is how it can be treated but everyone is different, meaning what people face what treatment does and doesn't work for them could vary. https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-a-panic-attack-2584403 All these signs can go into panic attacks and social anxiety as well. 

Other mental health issues you could may learn about. https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/borderline-personality-disorder/symptoms/

https://www.verywellmind.com/a-list-of-psychological-disorders-2794776

https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/ServicesAndSupport/types-of-mental-health-issues-and-illnesses

Understanding the difference between sigma, Prejudice disacrimation and judgement.

 If I am honest I cannot understand the difference between, sigma, prejudice discrimination and judgement they all seem similar if not the same to me. However' I guess it is when people don't treat equally to everyone else because of disabilities, mental health,, colour, someone who may be against someone's beliefs etc for example. Here are some examples; which is which I don't know.

This could be examples of Sigma in mental health. 

You're making a mountain out of a molehill. your crazy, you're mad, you're off your rocker. Your overreacting, you're out of your mind, don't worry about it, these can easily get misunderstood. Attitudes, behaviours, how staff, managers are towards people with disabilities, mental health etc in work, study, etc.  https://www.camh.ca/en/health-info/guides-and-publications/stigma

These issues really need to be aware of and treated before it gets to a stage where people's state of minds get more severe and we should be able to support people without facing them with Sigma. However' sadly being in the early stages is not always possible in everyone. It is not in everyone's case I might be wrong and this is hard to word without upsetting others, all same this is a hard one to balance. This gives no excuse because it's a huge effect on families, friends, etc but getting to the point many say some crimes etc happen by those who face major mental health issues but I guess that may not be always the case. Like I said in one of my posts those who may want to take your career into mental health further etc, psychology is another you may want to get into. 

https://www.time-to-change.org.uk/about-us/our-campaigns/challenging-stigma-young-people/impact-judgement

https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/sites/default/files/actions_speak__louder_0.pdf

Other examples, people not been treated fairly, not being accepted because of having disabilities, mental health etc, not having the right tools, support etc to one's needs, https://www.verywellmind.com/mental-illness-and-stigma-2337677

https://www.nhsinform.scot/illnesses-and-conditions/mental-health

What is Aniexty?

 Like everything, mental health issues Anxiety is a feeling but everything mental health issues is a different feeling. Anxiety is a feeling of anger, not necessarily a way of getting mad with people but a feeling of worry,  stress, fear, a sense of dread, and panic. Most people face dizziness, tiredness mainly if they have struggled to sleep if they have struggled to rest from whatever may be playing on their minds, shaking, trembling, dry mouth, short of breath, stomach ace, feeling sick, headaches, needles, and pins, etc.  With needles and pin, shaking, etc, if they have epilepsy or and even a history of it, it may be easy to get confused with Epilepsy and Anxiety but in some cases, it may be both. I am no professional but maybe things like ECGs can monter those conditions. It's possible to even some people may be facing non-epilespy seizures, which is another thing that can happen to some people if they get too stressed. 

 With most people when something is on the mind such as say an exam, hospital appointment, etc, it doesn't leave them alone in the mind until it's done, even then it may depends on what happens afterward. Over the years some people may learn to manage it by trying not to talk to others about it all the while but doesn't me it's left their mind alone. It's possible risks, it can spoil relationships with others depending on the people they communicate with because it can be too easy for them to keep talking about it because they are so worried, which is what I face myself. To be honest a one point I thought was me going mad but since I have spoken to a fair few people who have faced the same themselves so sounds as if I am not alone on this one. 

Remember what I said in I think not my last post but the one before about something that may seem small to you seems big to them, which most people would say the person is making a mountain out of a molehill. Thinking about it, it may be my last post. Like I said never say you are making a mountain of mole. Naturally, you are concerned about how whatever it may be is affecting the person. Try going through the situation slowly with the person by trying to break it down to be less stressful to them, for people this may help, others may not. For those who it may not maybe try finding out from the person themselves what's likely to help them or and if you have any huge concerns, mainly it's safety concern make your manage aware but also the person needs to be aware themselves and why, which should be a good reason if it's a safety concern.

 Even I would say myself from having been a patient and client, you can only do your best, take care of your own safety as well as theirs, you shouldn't have to put up with any abuse, etc, which is less likely happen nine times out ten but report to your manager, bring in the police, etc if you need and have to. I will admit that there are major mental health issues that can have a huge effect on a person's behavior and yes they can be feeling severely anxious but all the same that doesn't mean that your safety doesn't matter either. Many people who face it themselves even when being in a calm state of mind you would say the same whatever mental health issues they face. I will admit, some things in life can make me feel so anxious, it can be severe but others not quite as bad. 

However' it can be dangerous to the person's self if it affects people in a big way, leading to things like heart attack, etc if the person's worrying levels are very severe. At that stage or even beforehand maybe suggest things like exercise, relaxation, yoga, therapy, etc, depending on the person, etc, also even diet advice. 

 https://www.nhsinform.scot/illnesses-and-conditions/mental-health/anxiety#introduction

About Depression.

 Before I go on, just to let you all know without focusing you do what you don't want to do or and cannot do. It seems with the Coranvirus lockdown that mental health charities, services, etc are needing support to fund as there is a huge increase of people facing mental health, etc.  I myself had a letter from Mind today but I cannot affront to support them so I can understand who cannot but I can understand how concerning the increase of mental health is as I face it myself. It's only writing my lectures, poetry, teaching sessions on PowerPoint, etc keeps me sane but not everything helps everyone.

Not sure if it is true or not but in any case I posted a report on Facebook about a week ago, saying since the Coranvirus lockdown numbers of people asking for help have risen from 80'298 to 232'271 people, which is hugely concerning. 

Depression 

In my view, depression is a feeling of sadness whether there is a reason or not. It may well start off mild then increase, it may even happen on and off.  No one knows why this happens. Many would say that having nothing going or too much in one's life but who knows? 

Depression is not an easy subject to talk about as different people see it in different ways. All mental health issues are emotional well-being affects how we think, feel, and behave. This can also make a lot of us more sensitive than those who don't face it. 

If feeling low lasts a long time it can be a huge concern, it can affect everyday lives for example; like making one feeling hopeless, guilty, worthless, not up to doing things, or cannot seem to stop doing things to try and keep themselves at ease, within some cases not realizing, most people could even face it both ways at different times which I tend to face myself. 

When the depression is mild you can just about lead a normal life but if it increases it can be a huge concern, not say everyone but for most people, it gets to the stage one feels as if life is not worth living. This can be one of the reasons why it can be a sensitive subject to most where it can be concerning despite all the services and charities there are now compared to many years ago, where there could be still a lot of people worry to ask for help and another reason could be to most they feel as they are putting a lot on other people, which we can do anything about because we don't know for sure.  https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/postnatal-depression-and-perinatal-mental-health/about-maternal-mental-health-problems/

( SAD) Season Affected Disorder.

With ( SAD)  you don't need something your mind to bother you to for you to face ( SAD), don't me wrong this is not saying everyone is sad. The winter months are emotional well - beings on their own with grey dull skies, needing to put your lights on at home at around 3.00pm, etc. 

On top of this people are at home even more so now due to the Coronavirus lockdown, which increasing mental health more as much as staying at home is to protect people from the Virus.

As dark as it sounds the government is trying to save lives as much as possible from the Coronavirus, which is not wrong but there are huge concerns about lost lives from Mental health, which is impossible to save lives from both. However' the government needs to put more funding etc into mental health charities and services.

 As right as it is to protect people from Convirus, many people are facing loneliness not everyone knows how to use IT, Internet, etc, even they know how to use phones, some people cannot even affront a phone despite how much IT there is today and if they can't afford a phone, they can't afford a laptop and pc either, even though there's a wide amount of us who can. 

To most people, the lockdown rules are not clear to understand therefore people possibly only go out to shop for food, etc because they may be the scar of breaking rules because they don't understand them.

The support for vulnerable people could be now limited because of social distancing. 

People having to get used to learning to work and study online instead of having to travel to work, okay some workplaces are open and others are not.

Don't get me wrong in many ways it's probably good to learn new ways but can be harder for some people to learn than others, some may find it harder without face-to-face learning and support. 

Xmas time most people may struggle etc if they aren't able to see their families. 

Things people may face around  ( SAD) lack of energy, lack of concentration, not wanting to see people, loneliness, sleeping problems, waking up problems, staying asleep; feeling sad, tearful, guilty, hopeless, low, eating less, or more, prone to colds, illnesses, and more such as suicidal thoughts, etc.https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/seasonal-affective-disorder-sad/about-sad/

Supporting people.

You don't need to be a trained health professional to try and find out how someone is. 

As the old saying goes there's always someone worse off than yourself. Okay, IT, the internet has grown in the last year but not to say I am right but I don't take it for grandit that everyone is on the IT and internet. Some people may not know to access, use it, worry for their safety, etc and even harder they may find it hard to use or and afford a phone as crazy as it may sound this day and age. Some people may be vulnerable and others may overprotect them from the interest, IT, etc. I know it can be costly but you don't need to do it very often maybe once a month or once every 6 months or something even a letter to that someone you know etc if it's not affordable for them to write back to you may send them a sample addressed eleplove to write back to you. I know that sounds cheeky but at least it's away to find out how they are feeling, copying, etc, and to show you care if you have no other way of getting in touch with them and if you have their address of course. 

 

Never Judge a book by it's cover.

This is a hard one to write about but a very important awareness.  As human beings we are all so different, it would be a boring world if we were all the same. I am all for being as caring as I possibly can be but every human mind is so different. Nevertheless, never judge a book by its cover. No deservices judgment, Sigma, or discrimination. However' your time and everything matters and if you work in the form of privacy, etc in support of people, etc, you matter as well as the client, patience, etc, which is not an easy one to balance.  

Your duty is to put yourself in someone's shoes, meaning thinking how you would want things if you were in their situation whatever it may be. Whether it's one to one sessions or not you have a duty to respect the person's privacy but raise and concerns if needs be only to the manager or anyone else in that role in the workplace. At the same time, your safety matters too and the person needs to respect that, which sadly but in most cases rarely happens. 

It's unlikely mainly with people facing mental health you will come across anyone wasting your time but never says never. When I say this I don't mean people with disabilities, mental health, etc. Sorry I find this hard to explain, this is going to sound harsh but it true but probably rarely that there are people out there who try to fake the system because they may not want to work, etc. Either that can be hard to prove etc either way. This is one of the reasons why data protective, IDs, etc are in place. 

 Never be a judge the person, never cause them sigma, or discriminate them which is fair enough but you know what, they shouldn't do that to you either. They need to respect you by keeping, turning up for appointments, etc, and contacting you and letting you know, etc if they cannot make them, etc. 

If a person says they are feeling down, sad, etc without a reason, never say for example; what you doing here for? Never say, there's nothing the matter with you.

Never say, if someone is saying they are anxious a lot with worry, never say don't worry or don't you think you are over worrying? This can be the same as thinking as well. Another thing they could be dealing with something that seems really small to you but huge to them.

 Never say don't you think you are overreacting or and making a mountain out of a molehill. Instead, try to suggest ways step by step but the choice is theirs whether or not they want to go along with it. If that not good enough for them suggest other things.

 However' you get only give so many suggestions etc;  depending on the person's situation, etc there may be a point where you may need to empower and say what are you going to do?

 If they are struggling to decide, this may be an issue depending on what's happening you may need to raise with your manager.

 However' if the person does come up with an answer you cannot say tell them whether it's a good or bad idea of theirs but you can tell them what's likely to happen if they do what they say they are going to do.https://www.seemescotland.org/stigma-discrimination/experiencing-stigma-and-discrimination-and-how-to-challenge-it/

Never say things like, it's all in your head, you are imaging this, you are exaggerating, or don't you think you are exaggerating?  Treat the mild problems as a serious problem because with people with Anxiety any problem feels and seems like a serious problem to them. However' many people can find it hard to know work out etc how bad a problem maybe it eases Aniexty mostly if it's sorted to be more serious than it is by dealing with it step by step with the person. If you both struggling maybe consider it as a safety concern that could be raised with the manager etc where they may be able to suggest things etc.

Never tell anything about the client, patient's information, etc outside the workplace.

Awareness of learning disability and mental health during in the lockdown.

 Learning disability and mental health has always been a struggle but with the coronavirus, lockdown is even more of a struggle as Social distance may limit their support, however, it may or may not be the case in everyone and everything but the possibility of what people may be facing needs to be aware of. The fact that their support may be limited may increase also their mental health.

 For example; household skills, cook shopping, money, personal care, careers, socializing, etc. https://howrightnow.org/. They may even struggle to cope with things changing or and stopping in their lives such as studying and working online, making and contacting friends, family, etc. Bear in mind, we know this is a probley hard to help these people but there may be some people who may struggle to access IT and the internet at all. The less support they may be getting the more so their mental health may be at risk but this may depend on their support network if they have any. Even some are not depending on such service as social services etc, they may be having no choice to but depending on the family but that doesn't necessarily mean there are enough people in the family to cope with the needs of the person, depending on what those needs are how much support they are needing, this is where risks of Anxiety and Depression levels may increase.

For those who may be facing these situations no one is forcing help onto you but just to let you know, we know it's not easy and we will admit that help is limited and it is easy to not say anything, know it's easy for me to say but yes I have been there myself. There is some help about and we cannot promise whether or not it will work for you but it's not known unless you ask.  Don't feel you can't say anything because of your feelings and voice matters. https://www.supportline.org.uk/problems/mental-health/

https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/learning-disability-support/for-people-with-learning-disabilities/

Does the level fuction Autism mesure up to the level of Aniexty?

 Most people who are on the Autism Spectrum can face high levels of Aniexies through everyday lives, which causes them stress, which is not an intentional thing only that even in the same ways people have to face in life, they are just more sensitive to situations, etc compared to other people. For example; this could mean route, being taken out of their own comfort zone, getting used to new ways of doing things, etc.

 For example; the lockdown and not been able to go to their workplace, working online if they work, needing someone to support them, and teach them the new way compared to the way they are used. They may become alarmed by sudden surprises, without anyone making them aware or and preparing them. To how sensitive they are this can cause them to panic and stress even though no one means to cause them that, which can affect most people emotionally and increase Anxiety levels.

 This gets them misunderstood to being someone they are not or and someone they don't want to be. Most people may think they want to be the center of attention, the most important person in the work, selfish, etc, which not the case. We must remember that Autism is an unawareness of the world around the person unless they are told they may have hurt someone's feelings for eg; they don't realize that. In some areas, if not all they may take a while to realize but once they realize they are very sorry. 

 In fact, there can be situations where they worry for example whether or not they have upset someone or not, that plays on their minds, stresses them out, etc until someone makes them aware if they get told they have they feel bad about it. This may cause them to overreact, over think, something may seem to them worse than what it really may be, etc Just because they face these problems, yes they like them to be aware of understanding, etc but also not to be treated or misunderstood for people to think they shouldn't be treated any differently to anyone else would be. 

Most people with ASD can be hypersensitive, sensitive to sounds, taste, touch, feel, etc, not everyone is sensitive to all of them, this can vary from person to person, some it can be one thing,  others a few, and others all. 

I am trying to research to find out whether not how high the levels of Anxiety a person faces depends on the function level of Autism someone has or not. According to what I have read most people can sensitive to social situations, where they may avoid communicating with people as much as possible because may worry they may say or something wrong in the mind of others righty or wrongly, mainly the more they become aware they may cross misunderstanding with people without meaning to but this is not necessary they can everyone. However' there are ways and means of working around this such as confidence, social skills, etc. Not saying they don't get on with those without Autism but they are pretty much likely to be on the same wave as others who may face Autism. https://www.anxiety.org/autism-spectrum-disorder-anxiety-strategies

Difference between Dyslexica and Dyspraxia

 On both Dyslexia and Dyspraxia, there are differences but there are ways they are the same too, which makes it hard to know whether it's possible to have both or and one or the other. Yer' confusing I know but just going from my own experience but then I am as confused anyone who is. Sorry to say there's no easy way of saying this without confusing the issues because a lot of these special needs difficulties have ways that are the same as one another and other ways different. I think I could say Dyslexia and Dyspraxia is two of them. This part of my life was and maybe to a point still is, which is.

Never think a person cannot speak, Spell, sound, read, write, etc; they just have difficulties along the way.  However' yes there are people who cannot speak, sound, Spell, read and write, which may not be all of them, some, one or the other or all but that doesn't make them thick, stupid, etc, they know what's going on around them as much as anyone, they just may struggle to communicate. However' all this can vary from person to person and even some people who just have difficulties along the way can face as much difficulty as those who cannot read, write and speak at all, you may come across more cases like this more so but maybe not as I said it can vary from person to person.

Dyspraxia can affect all areas of life, physically and mentally, motor, skills, coloration, and grip. Difficulties in cooking, cleaning, changing light bulbs, climbing, etc to education difficulties I have just written about whereas Dyslexia has just the mental difficulties. However' a person with Dyslexia may have some physical difficulties like finding it hard to not press too hard to the paper with their pencils, which is more so education tools but this can be an extra difficulty for people with Dyspraxia too. Many researchers have said on the internet that motor skills, etc can apply to Autism and Dyslexia as well as Dyspraxia and maybe more.  https://youtu.be/zLkCWT2neuI?fbclid=IwAR1lmaQtyHtMOvnYwaPHShnCqUW4mDojCRetPjO_Us8DnI7wINYuw01m4_E

https://studyingwithdyslexiablog.co.uk/blog//2015/12/the-3-ds-what-is-difference-between.html

Regozine Dyslexia in a Dyslexia poet and poetry.

 The pen doesn't write what the brain is thinking. 

Words make sense in my head but don't come out the same and sense on paper.

Most of the time I write and read things the wrong way round.

Get confused with different things like for example, bs, ds, 56, 65, Denis, Dentist, too, two, to make get mixed but some things we may overcome. 

Which is not necessarily wrong but maybe the wrong way round, all the same, it can fail you in life for the brief little hick cup it may well be. 

There is a positive side to me, which is my drawing, painting, and poetry. 

Being Dyslexia doesn't take away stories, ideas, thoughts, etc in my head, it just doesn't make sense without or the right support.

Read and write slow, struggle to read, and, sounds, spell certain words.

Get the right words, letters, numbers, etc in the wrong places, or even some, one, two, etc missing. 

The right information for forms in the wrong places. 

Reading the small print is as if words and letters are jumping off a page. 8. 11.2020 

They told me.

They told me I was thick, stupid, and lazy.

They told me I didn't want to learn and get by. 

They told me I would never learn and get by.

All because I got things in the wrong places, upside down, wrong way round, back to front, etc.

I was only good at swimming, drawing, and painting.

When I left school, I thought it was the end of my career to look forward to, even though I was glad to leave school.

I was wrong, I caught up with a lot in college with the right support, even though I didn't catch up with a lot.

Now I can teach disability, mental health, and all problem awareness and also discovered poetry, drawing, and painting. 

End of the year 2020 poetry

 

I have written this poetry page in awareness of John Lennon's pop star and ex Beatles' star was 80 birthday gone this October, peace that John wished for. For all John's talent, he faced Dyslexia. I myself Dyspraxia,  Dyslexia. Depression John may have faced himself. Also, next month on the 8th December it will be 40 years 1980. since John's death. It's sad for anyone to die young of anything but to be gunned down, no reason is a reason for what happened. No matter how much we are told we never understand the mind of the person who did this because see no reason was or is a reason for it. 

John hoped for peace and hoped to stop wars and violence, which is impossible because there's no perfect world but we can raise as much awareness as possible, which is what John would have wanted. However' this is also a reason for remembrance and every day to think about those who have lost their lives in all wars gone because if it hadn't have been for them we wouldn't be here today.  

Yes' believe in peace, not war.

Let people believe in what they want to believe in, John but yes I agree whatever they believe in for no reason is good enough to start a war.

 There is no wrong in believing in peace and region is a choice of those who want to be a region. 

All the same pur peace and the perfect world is just a dream. 

Heaven is just another world John and we will all be with you in it as one, one day. 

Earth is full of IT today John. 

There again John, you may have been wanting peace and love which is fine but you weren't showing it to your son Julian and your first wife. 

Imagine you at 80, John Lennon. 

It sure isn't hard to imagine you at 80, with grey long hair, braid, glasses and still looking as young as you were in the 60s and 70s.

No one would either understand the mind of the man who took you away from us, only no reason was any reason for it.  

He wasn't saying he was perfect, right, wrong, etc, he was trying to understand everyone's feelings.

He wasn't preaching, leading judging, etc; he was trying to create peace and stop the war, which really is a hard one because there is no perfect but his intention was given us peace and safety, which can maybe improve but impossible to stop altogether. 

I would imagine if he was still here even at 80, he would be still trying to improve the world for us to have peace and love. 

 

When I was in school.

 

Learning was never truly clear to me; the world was hazy.

 

Staff couldn’t  understand why I couldn’t  understand them, neither could  I.

 

Only  to find years later  to find it was to do with the tablets I was taking at the time.

 

It was almost as they were thinking I was thick and stupid and the way I reacted to them, even though they never said as far  I am aware. 7.11.2020

John Lennon's first poem.

At The Denis

Madam: I have a hallowed tooth that suffer me grately.

Sir: Sly down in that legchair Madam and open your gorble wide - your mouse is all but toothless.

Madam: Alad! I have but eight tooth remaining (eight tooth left).

Sir: Then you have lost eighty three.

Madam: Impossyble.

Sir: Everydobby knows there are foor decisives two canyons and ten grundies, which make thirsty two in all.

Madam: But I have done everything to save my tooth.

Sir: Perhumps! but to no avague.

Madam: Ah! why did I not insult you sooner!

Sir: To late, it must be now or neville.

Madam: You will pull it out for me then!

Sir: No, madman, I will excrete it.

Madam: But that is very painful.

Sir: Let me see it - Crack! there it be madacre.

Madam: But sir I wished to keep (was anxious to keep) that tooth.

Sir: It was all black and moody, and the others are too.

Madam: Mercy - I will have none to eat with soon.

Sir: A free Nasty Heath set is good, and you will look thirty years jungle.

Madam: (Aside) Thirty years jungle; (Aloud) Sir I am no catholic, pull out all my stumps. By John Lennon

Sir: O.K. Gummy.

My Dyspraxia poem. 

Dyspraxia
I could never do up my buttons.
I could never do up my laces.
I could never clean my teeth on how they should be cleaned.
My mouth is too small with too many teeth, food just get's everywhere it always has but I love it.
Exercise is hard to access when you have Dyspraxia.
I can't catch or throw a ball.
I couldn't even open a tin with a tin opener but then I discovered how to use the old-fashioned tin openers.
I love going to the pub, I'm useless with money than I overspend.
I have never been very good at maths.
I am more can with English and words but I even get confused there because of my Dyslexia.
In a poem, I can express my disabilities in a poem better than I can to people.
I am more skills with my writing and raising learning disability awareness than everyday living skills. 13.8.2012 - 17.8.2012

My Depression poem.

27 1997. At the age of 27 1997, it was a bad year.
You broke my heart, you tore me apart.
At the age of 27 in 1997 I just wanted to go to heaven.
Life did not seem worth living, it all seemed like a dark tunnel.
The winter was dull and cold without you.

I discovered Shelly and Keats in the summer.
Without planning to I wrote poetry but when I did I knew life was worth living after all.
Once I started writing poetry it helped me clear my mixed-up mind which helped me to get stronger in my mind.
That's when I learned to understand that life goes on, without writing poetry I would have broken down or and even ended my own life.

Jim Hendricks, Kurt Cobain, and Jim Morrison all suffered depression one way or the other over different very bad times in life, they were all 27 when they died.
They were very creative people in their music but I pulled through my breakdown when I was nearly twenty - eight by discovering poetry. 13.2.2009

Discover other disabilities, health problems, and talents.  https://www.facebook.com/fmderana
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We don't know what they went through, we have no clue what their lives were like, we can only imagine. 

We haven't got a clue what their lives were like, we can only imagine. 

It's easy for us to say they shouldn't have smoked, we don't know the stress they faced.

As they coughed like hags walking miles with sacks on their backs and falling asleep at the same time.

Bringing in the coughing up mustard gas as they choked for their lives.

Boots falling off their feet as they were sinking through the muddy bogs.

Eyes were so blood-shod they could handy see where they were going and what they were doing.

The whole world probably seemed blind to them marching around with hearing bullets so loud to a point they couldn't hear. 

Everything is so misty and dark, they cannot see a thing, just how are they getting through this but time is so unknown. 

Fire shooting with yelling voices shouting. 

Now lives are on the line but then the possible unknown is possibly only a matter of time. 

The risk of drowning in the seas and not knowing what happens next must be so scary.

They kept on imaging peace but war kept coming to them. 7.11.2020 

It really happened.

 They aren't sleeping but they still are around, they are just in another world in a way we don't understand.

The memories of their lives still live on, they will never be the same again but what they did was for us, let's thank them all. 

Think about what they did for us gave us our lives to us and sadly lost theirs so young, we wouldn't be here without them.

Therefore those who are creating, war, violence, and crime stop it now and create peace. 

They are not dead they are in the next world.

We may not know them but we can only imagine what they went through which was a lot of pain to give us our lives and lose their own.

Now it's up to us to keep the world happy as possible and safe. 8. 11. 2020